[spoiltmom]

This is for my mom. I've very worried about her right now. She's been in abusive relationship for 31 years now. She's left him several times but always goes back. She just went back again a couple of weeks ago. She is now flat broke, other than her weekly paycheck. He is being mentally, emotionally and physically abusive to her. She is on Xanax and she is takng so much that she seems to have no emotions at all anymore.
I think she is on the verge of committing suicide or having a nervous breakdown. She won't move in with me, she won't file charges on him.
She has no extra money and no health insurance. How do I get her help? She spent the day yesterday locked inside her house drinking wine and taking Xanax. She refused to answer the door or the phone. We have no inpatient psych facilities here.
What can I do??? A few years ago 2 of my family members were murdered as a result of domestic abuse and I'm scared that this is headed in that direction. Something bad is about to happen

[BlueInanna]

I don't know what say, I feel so bad and worried for you and her
You can't really make them get help . I suppose you could call 911 and say you're worried she's trying to hurt herself, then they would possibly put a hold on her for a psych eval and treatment for a few weeks. If ur in the states, I think they have to provide Medicaid if she has no money nor insurance. Who is prescribing the Xanax? That should probably stop, you could call her doctor... You are not in a good position. Take care of yourself and your kids as best you can right now. I'm so sorry ur going through this.

[spoiltmom]

She works for a specialist and he is the one giving her Xanax. He has also given her Elavil she says she doesn't want to move in with me because she doesn't want to be a burden but I'd rather her be here so I don't have to worry so much. Me worrying about her 24/7 is a huge burden

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by spoiltmom

worrying about her 24/7 is a huge burden

Does she know that?

[spoiltmom]

I'm trying to get her to understand that. I tell her constantly. I know it will take time but I'm confident that she can have a happy healthy life if she will just break away from him permanently.

[Victoria'smom]

Tell her you need her to come live with you.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by spoiltmom

What can I do??? (

You are a wonderful daughter, a blessing for your mom.

It seems that you have two desires:

- getting her to get mental health

- getting her to move in with you

Since both are very hard to fulfill, and since her moving out of the abusive environment seems more important than her getting mental help, you probably need to focus on having her move in with you. Since the situation is so bad, trying to kill two birds at once seems impossible.