[teddi1953]

I'll apologize in advance if this is the wrong place to post this. I'm going to try and not make this terribly long and drawn out.

My Mom is 92. About 7 years ago I had to move her into assisted living and had her seeing a geriatric psychologist. He diagnosed her with a personality disorder but didn't go into any details and also possibly dementia. Mom is well, incredible difficult and has been for as long as I can remember. I handled her financial affairs after her move and she proceeded to call APS on me three times for perceived stealing. My cousin took over because Mom's actions had me to a point that I was having really bad anxiety attacks. Fast forward to a few weeks ago and I had to take her affairs back over. She promised that she would be "good" and that lasted about 6 weeks. Since then she has done everything she can think of to make my life hell. I had convinced my son to go see her prior to her return to whatever and she told him such a pack of lies about me and if that weren't bad enough I had my husband go over to get her to sign some papers and she did the same thing to him. I feel like I have no choice but to at least take care of her affairs but I feel like I'm being terrorized by this old woman. I have as little contact with her as possible. As I have come to find out, this behavior is absolutely nothing new for her, she has been doing things like this for decades. She is equal opportunity mean, vindictive, hateful, hurtful and manipulative. She has also tried to seduce my second husband and my cousin's husband. There are rumors she has stolen from family members and she was once arrested for shoplifting and I have personally caught her shoplifting. I could go on but I think what I've posted is probably sufficient.

I know that at the age of 92 she probably doesn't have much time left on this earth but she makes it impossible to have any kind of a relationship. I know she has a mental health issue and I try to understand but everytime I have contact with her it disturbs me terribly.

So, this is my story. Any suggestions on coping with this? She doesn't respect boundaries or if she does it is only very temporary.

Thanks for reading. It feels good just to get it off my chest.

[~Christina]

If she is unwilling to allow you to handle her finances with out her lying and plain making life a living hell for you.
You can ask the administrator at the assisted living center to get you names of legit people who are bonded and trained to manage money affairs for the elderly. Your local county clerks office also should have a list. They charge either a flat fee or an hourly charge.

Then give Mom the option.

I am sorry you are having to deal with all this.