One wish

Jun 16, 2013, 03:08 PM

I wish I didn't have bp.

Jun 16, 2013, 03:36 PM

I know how you feel Chelbten, but when we are given a "lemon", the best thing to do
is to make lemonade. When you stop and think about it, Chelbten, everyone has something in life that is a problem for him/her. In my view, the real secret in life is how we manage
whatever our individual problem happens to be.

If it's of any encouragement to you, there is no such thing as "normal". It's just a
statistic and doesn't reveal anything about anyone.

Take good care of yourself; that's most important.

Good wishes.

Trippin2.0 · Jun 16, 2013, 04:03 PM

Wishes as a rule are depressing. I advise you to refrain from dwelling on wishes as genies are non-existant. Whoever invented wishes should be shot IMO because they have caused many a miserable man, woman and child over the years.

Nobody wants MI, cancer or AIDS, and wishing they didn't have it seems extremely counter-productive.
Wishing is focussing on the impossible, so how can it be helpful?...

I'm not being a b!tch, I promise, we've all been where you are now, but staying there gets us absolutely nowhere...

The more productive approach would be acceptance, tolerence and management. Then hopefully one day soon you will see it as an extention of you, rather than a dark cloud looming over your life highlighting the fact that you feel defective compared to everyone else.

Alternately, if you form part of the populace who find "extention of you" repulsive, you will hopefully find yourself in a place where bp is merely an illness you have to maintain and tolerate, completely separate from you and in no way a reflection of you.

Either way, acceptance is key, but its up to you to decide how and when you start your journey .

A Red Panda · Jun 16, 2013, 04:39 PM

I wish for lots of different things. Some are more realistic than others..... (what an understatement that is!)

But I would be scared to wish for any changes to my past, despite how much I dislike certain things. Because I wouldn't be ME then, and who would I be instead?! Would I be better, or would I be worse? I do not know.

So instead I content myself with wishing for things I can actually achieve or things that are so completely out of touch with reality that I'll never be disapointed in not achieving it. I'll also allow myself to wallow in wishes for the future to some extent. But wishing to change my past or who I essentially am? No... no point in wishing for those.

BipolaRNurse · Jun 16, 2013, 04:44 PM

As the saying goes: wish in one hand, crap in the other.....and see which gets filled first.

No one who is really bipolar wants to be. I'm not talking about the drama queens and the Hollyweird types who think BP is the "cool" diagnosis to have, but those of us who battle it every day and try to make a good life for ourselves despite the odds against us.

We may not be able to wish our illness away, but we CAN do much to control it. That includes medications (for most of us, anyway---not everyone needs or wants them), a good diet and exercise, regular visits with a mental health provider, and good sleep hygiene.....all the things that give us a healthy self-discipline.

It's not easy; nothing that we bipolar people do ever is. I know that's hard to get used to, but it is the reality of it and the sooner we face it the better off we'll be. I hope you find yourself at peace with your diagnosis soon; it took me awhile to accept mine, but once I did, wellness finally became a possibility.

thegreek · Jun 16, 2013, 04:58 PM

^^i agree. Admittedly I was diagnosed with the 'lesser' of the two bipolars (type ii or something? I guess), and I don't know the OP's story and in what ways your life has been affected, so I whole heartedly realize I could have a different view based on my experience so far. But I think I am actually grateful in a way for my 'situation'; I feel that I've matured a lot and learned so much in working to manage it, and weirdly I feel grateful for that opportunity to grow. Sucks still during those times everything seems to spin out of control, and the aftermath, but I think those times have helped me realize a lot about myself and the world.

But yeah, I don't know if I could say my experience with BP has had extremely severe tolls on my relationships with people or my future. So it may be that if it did I would feel differently.

But in the spirit of wishes, I guess I would posit that I wish I could know all the things about life that the 80 year old version of myself would know, so I could benefit from that wisdom and not have to learn the hard way on some things, as I do so often it seems. But I suppose that that's part of life too, eh?

Sorry for the ramble :P OP you havin a rough time right now?

LadyShadow · Jun 16, 2013, 05:26 PM

I often wish I didn't have bp either. Just want it to go away so I can live my life. But like someone said, with these lemons I am going to try my best to make lemonade.