Would you find this offensive?

AnxietyGirl916 · Sep 30, 2013 at 11:32 AM

I have a facebook/instagram friend that posed a pic of her "mood changing" nail polish. Her comment, as her polish was 2 different shade of blue today was, "Mood changing nails. Does this mean I'm bipolar today?!"

Maybe I'm just being sensitive because I'm in a crappy mood, but I don't find that funny at all. Of course, all her friends are LOLing about it, but I just want to tell her to STFU as she has NO IDEA what it's like to be bipolar. People think making jokes about MI is a way of de-stigmatizing it, but to me it's just offensive.

Thoughts?

Andysmom · Sep 30, 2013 at 11:45 AM

I think that's very offensive. I hate it when people joke about being bi-polar. Like its even remotely fun!

Sep 30, 2013 at 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AnxietyGirl916

I have a facebook/instagram friend that posed a pic of her "mood changing" nail polish. Her comment, as her polish was 2 different shade of blue today was, "Mood changing nails. Does this mean I'm bipolar today?!"

Maybe I'm just being sensitive because I'm in a crappy mood, but I don't find that funny at all. Of course, all her friends are LOLing about it, but I just want to tell her to STFU as she has NO IDEA what it's like to be bipolar. People think making jokes about MI is a way of de-stigmatizing it, but to me it's just offensive.

Thoughts?

If this is a close friend, perhaps a private message just explaining how that reference is offensive to someone who actually lives with the disorder. Probably wouldn't be mean about it, just sort of educational. I don't think responding in anger accomplishes anything except reinforcing her mistaken ideas about bipolar disorder.

mzunderstood79 · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:07 PM

Depending on my "mood", I would be extremely offended especially if it was a close close friend or I would laugh about it...... Depend on the day I am having...??

AnxietyGirl916 · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:10 PM

She's not really close. I've known her for a umber of years. She gets pissy when people make uneducated remarks about things, yet here she is doing the same thing. I haven't responded, I'm just stewing.

venusss · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:16 PM

Meh, if this is offensive, we would have to come with new term for truly mean and outward offensive stuff.

Rather ignorant and not funny. But who never misused ANY serious term, throw a rock. Most likely people just pick up on it and use it without even thinking too much.

AnxietyGirl916 · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VenusHalley

Meh, if this is offensive, we would have to come with new term for truly mean and outward offensive stuff.

Rather ignorant and not funny. But who never misused ANY serious term, throw a rock. Most likely people just pick up on it and use it without even thinking too much.

Good point. I guess I'm just sensitive this morning.

BlueInanna · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:37 PM

I think it's totally rude, ignorant, offensive, & insensitive. But thinking about the possible ways you could react/respond, and thinking around the corner, there's not much you can do right? And stay honorable with any chance of being understood?

Although it might be funny (from my perspective) to write, "Be careful with that stuff, they make it with lead and cobalt for the color. If you bite your nails and ingest it could cause further brain damage!"

But that's terribly passive aggressive, which solves nothing.

venusss · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AnxietyGirl916

Good point. I guess I'm just sensitive this morning.

eh, I myself get upset over people being stupid. Once my roommate caught me crying over "people are being stupid on Internet".

sorta like this, isn't it?

Would you find this offensive?

So I try to not get offended over people being simply stupid and not knowing better, otherwise, I'd spend my whole life pissed off at the world. Which I am enough as it is already.

henrydavidtherobot · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:46 PM

I don't really get upset by people referring to objects and things of the like as bipolar. I will get offended though if some one calls someone bi polar or says that they had a panic attack when they were just briefly stressed.

AnxietyGirl916 · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BlueInanna

I think it's totally rude, ignorant, offensive, & insensitive. But thinking about the possible ways you could react/respond, and thinking around the corner, there's not much you can do right? And stay honorable with any chance of being understood?

Although it might be funny (from my perspective) to write, "Be careful with that stuff, they make it with lead and cobalt for the color. If you bite your nails and ingest it could cause further brain damage!"

But that's terribly passive aggressive, which solves nothing.

LOL! That would probably start a war. I think I'm better off just keeping my comments to myself.

AnxietyGirl916 · Sep 30, 2013 at 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot

I don't really get upset by people referring to objects and things of the like as bipolar. I will get offended though if some one calls someone bi polar or says that they had a panic attack when they were just briefly stressed.

Me too. It's just like saying "that's retarded" or "that's gay". I just want to punch people that say stuff like that.

Victoria'smom · Sep 30, 2013 at 01:37 PM

I try to look at bipolar as having 2 different meanings:
1. Real: Mental illness
2. Popular: Very rapid changes when referring to anything including mood

I tend not to take offence to these things because I feel people use definition two. No amount of education will take this word out of popular culture because English is an ever evolving language.

A Red Panda · Sep 30, 2013 at 05:06 PM

I won't get properly mad about it, but I will point out that it's insensitive and incorrect. If you wanted bipolar nails, then one half should be black and the other half way - as then they are two polar opposites, which is what people tend to mean.

People don't need to know if I'm dealing with an issue or not - I always point out things that have to do with mental illness or other insensitivities. Just like a "In case you're wondering..." thing.

Even if they ignore it or get mad; at least I tried to help them understand something.

Diane1980 · Oct 01, 2013 at 04:37 AM

Ignorant, but not purposly offensive. I think in this case just let it go as she did not mean it, she is just not educated and probably has not known anyone with the disorder.

Menu

My Support Forums - Mental Health Support Groups

Get emotional support and friendship from others like you!

Our community offers: No spam. No trolls. No social media connections.

Would you find this offensive?

My Support Forums

Andysmom Member Member Since Aug 2013 Location: New Jersey Posts: 137 11 73 hugs given	Sep 30, 2013 at 11:45 AM #2 I think that's very offensive. I hate it when people joke about being bi-polar. Like its even remotely fun! __________________ Bi-polar 2 Lamictal 225 titrating up to 300 mg Celexa 40 mg Wellbutrin 300 mg Deplin 15 mg Klonopin .5 prn Benicar 20mg Synthroid .1 mcg
	Reply With Quote

mzunderstood79 Member Member Since Sep 2013 Location: out in the woods .... down south in the heart of dixie... Posts: 260 11 303 hugs given	Sep 30, 2013 at 12:07 PM #4 Depending on my "mood", I would be extremely offended especially if it was a close close friend or I would laugh about it...... Depend on the day I am having...??
	Reply With Quote

venusss Maidan Chick Member Since Mar 2010 Location: On the faultlines of the hybrid war Posts: 7,138 14 14 hugs given	Sep 30, 2013 at 12:16 PM #6 Meh, if this is offensive, we would have to come with new term for truly mean and outward offensive stuff. Rather ignorant and not funny. But who never misused ANY serious term, throw a rock. Most likely people just pick up on it and use it without even thinking too much. __________________ Glory to heroes! HATEFREE CULTURE
	Reply With Quote

Diane1980 Junior Member Member Since Sep 2013 Location: Brisbane, QLD, Australia Posts: 15 11 11 hugs given	Oct 01, 2013 at 04:37 AM #15 Ignorant, but not purposly offensive. I think in this case just let it go as she did not mean it, she is just not educated and probably has not known anyone with the disorder.
	Reply With Quote