[Victoria'smom]

you guys have so much that others wish for, your life is easy, and you are grateful for what you have. I just wish I could understand." This is how a conversation started at 5 am with my cousin in-law. It hit hard.

She's been with us for the better part of 10 yrs. She know what to expect mood wise when we shift, better than we do. She takes over parenting responsibilities when we can't. She understands there's a lot going on in the background but She even started therapy last year to try to have the therapist help her understand, it hasn't helped. She understand spoon theory She still feels she doesn't get it.

At 5 am she hits me with this conversation. She told me "You advocate medication but you still become overly hyper,then angry, then hyper, then calm and H has been in the room for a better part of 2 wks. I know your in there trying to get him out but I can't understand why he doesn't care." This is the thoughts my son has coming out of the mouth my 26 yr old cousin in-law.

How do I help her accept she understands as much as she can? Is there anything I or she can do to get her to understand better? It saddens me she's more accepting of the way my BP strikes then how H's strikes. If she's this confused how can I expect others in our family not to think we're purposefully like this?

[A Red Panda]

At least she's letting you know that she doesn't understand?

Why not draw a wave-diagram for her.. and who where "normal" people's moods are - with the ups and downs. Then show her yours and your H's scale... and go "Look, you see how this stuff is out of your range? That's ok. It's ok that you don't get it. But we go way out here and even with the meds, sometimes we still go way out there. It's hard to find a way back but the meds help out with that a bit."