[Victoria'smom]

My son currently has two friends over for the week-end and I called him out of his room to do something for me.He came out of his room red, white nucked fists and teeth clench. The conversation went like this:

ME: "Babe, Breathe.... breathe ... What is wrong?"
Miguel: "Me and C had an argument"
ME: " Friend have arguments, then they forgive and they're friends again."
Miguel: "I can never forgive him. "
ME: "What did he do?" really thinking I may have to call his parents and send him home.
Miguel: (read fast without breathing and loud) "He said he's Bipolar, He's not Bipolar, he hasn't even seen a doctor I wanted to strangle him but he wasn't close enough."
Me: Babe, most people say that as a joke in school....
Miguel: (over me) but it's not a joke
ME: ..... and he has seen a doctor he has ADHD, like you. (he doesn't know about his other Dx's)
Miguel: Then why doesn't he understand that bipolar is (5 min lecture about everything he knows about bipolar)
(thinking: Why don't you understand, kids?)
ME: Can you please do (what I need it)?

We change his meds two days ago so that it was more discreet. I'd hate to take him off the medication before we see if it works because the only other option is add more meds through out the day.

Is it just a sensitive kid thing or should I keep a closer eye on him or should I just take him off?

His Pdoc has left it up to us, She told us it looks like we'll have choose to deal with the OCD, adhd or the mood disorder and ASD. She does want him off it if it 'zombiefies' him, but she expects him to go into a disphoria.

[A Red Panda]

I am sorry to hear that he was that incredibly upset over it.... but you know, I'd be upset to. I almost snapped at a coworker a few weeks ago when she made a comment that one of my students from last year was bipolar. No, she isn't. She's emotional but it isn't bipolar.

So he's not really being oversensitive. He's just reacting to something that he knows was incorrect - that's probably also his Asperger's taking charge, no?

[Moose72]

People can just be plain ignorant about what it means to have bipolar. Try not to get to angry at them, I say.

[Victoria'smom]

long story short: He's embarrassed, knows we suspect BP, and we can't gauge the new meds so soon. His anger was based on ASD stress, and wanting to keep a friend.

People can just be plain ignorant about what it means to have bipolar. Try not to get to angry at them, I say.

I wish I could explain some people are ignorant but we have to be nice without it coming back to me that I think (Insert someone's name that Miguel is mad at.) is ignorant and I'm nice to them because I have to be. Most likely he's right but still.

Thank-you guys. At this point we're pretty sure the meds have messed up his mood as he was up at 4 am working on tons of bionicle's. It's that or he's very excited that he can concentrate. Having two friend's over is to much stress so he may have been up getting some peace and calming himself. Which is not uncommon for him but the activity level is uncommin.

We should not have had friend's over this weekend, let alone 2, never again will that happen, until we forget. We should not have had so many changes at ones for him to deal with. I did not realize how many changes have happened in the last couple of days,We combined rooms, he and I got med changes, his Aunt and her son moved in, it was HALLOWEEN, he restarts karate and the time change! All which can effect both mood and ASD.

His anger I think has less to do with his mood more to do with defence and embarrassment. C's mom and C knows about our (DH & my) DX. C know's all of us take meds. When we are having a hard time C's mom relieves us of our parenting responsibilities and we do the same for her. Miguel's friend J and his parents do not know that Miguel even takes medication or that we do because Miguel is extremely embarrassed that he/we take medication. He feels people will think bad of us/him if they know and will no longer like us or be friends with us. He didn't want J to think bad of us and to Miguel C was saying something bad.

There was a hint of jealousy in the mix. To miguel, C no longer has to take meds, he no longer goes to the Pdoc, no longer goes to a T therefor can't have BP because you have to do all those things to be a happy, healthy adult! Miguel has this innate ability to put together information that was stolen out of context, overheard, and fragmented and gathering it together waiting and mashing it all into one concrete idea. Sometimes he's right other times not so much. Not so much is extremely hard to explain and disprove. It is very likely that he put together: bipolar is genetic, all of us see pdoc, bipolar is a mood disorder, lamictal is a bipolar drug, he's on lamictal, pdoc said mood disorder, mom and dad left pdoc sad, and got I'm bipolar.

[Trippin2.0]

I hope Miguel is feeling better, I can understand how his friend comment upset him. ((((((Miguel & Mom)))))