[~Christina]

OK so here is the deal ....

Hubby's oldest son and his loud loud fiancee is coming 12/26 for a week to stay with us they live in FL. His middle son is up here for a month working his old job and he will be here staying for the same week .

They are not use to the cold and will not like how we just cant afford to heat the house they way they are going to want to. Hope they bring warm clothes and lots of them .

I am use to a quieter home now and all this noise is going to really test my coping skills and I know I really should not worry about this until it happens but I am stressed . I have already put in place .. escaping to my bedroom numerous times a day for quiet time with PC, FB and my headphones, taking a walk IF the weather cooperates.

There is alot of noise in my head daily the thought of adding more just , well just makes me want to run for the hills.

Thanks for reading my whine... or is it wine?

[Trippin2.0]

Wow, doesn't sound like a merry party at all. Wanna swop? I'll be alone at home and Christmas lunch will probably be a pizza and a movie

On a serious note, you have put your safety nets in place, so after you've successfully ranted, raved, cried and whined, it will be time to hand that shyt over to Future Christina

I'm sorry your house will be so full of noise, especially since the gf sounds like her personality alone fills up an entire room on its own.

You know what else you can plan though?

Very special doing nothing time after that week is over I find this helps me get through, because its like goal setting, except the goal is actively doing nothing besides some shweeeet R&R.

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you will have to deal with all of this. It is hard when we are used to the quiet and then have company. I understand your whine.

I got lucky. My stepdaughter had planned to come for a couple of weeks and I knew i would not deal with this well, however, at the last minute she changed her mind. I feel bad for my husband who hasn't seen her in over a year, but I know my nerves would have been shot by the time she left. (She used to live with us.)

[~Christina]

Lia .... How bout you and I just pick a spot and hang out for that week. lol Ahhh if only we could ( stomping feet over the ocean between us)

Yes I have to just set up my self care and let it go until they arrive.. and focus on when they leave my home will revert back to quiet and calm. I have never had a loud home and even Amanda could never handle any kind of loud mess either.

Hubby is sooooo excided to see his oldest son ( he just spend the day with his middle son yesterday) .. But truth be told he can no longer handle all the noise and ruckus like he once did .

Yep Future Christina will be able to handle this , I always do handle everything tossed my way somehow.

Thanks Gayleggg ... Yes it is hard on thoses of us that are sensitive to changes in our home or job whatever ..Can maybe your husband take a trip to see her after the holidays ?

[Moose72]

We are havinf loud company tio. I can see myself holed up in my room a lot.

I know this feeling well, I had nine people plus a third dog in my house for Thanksgiving, somehow I made it through...my husband helped a lot. It'll be quieter for Christmas but still 6 of us, my older son and his wife will be visiting and my younger son and his fiance live with me.

[~Christina]

Emomom .. Wow high 5 for dealing with all that !!! You are amazing

[dubblemonkey]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

OK so here is the deal ....

Hubby's oldest son and his loud loud fiancee is coming 12/26 for a week to stay with us they live in FL. His middle son is up here for a month working his old job and he will be here staying for the same week .

They are not use to the cold and will not like how we just cant afford to heat the house they way they are going to want to. Hope they bring warm clothes and lots of them .

I am use to a quieter home now and all this noise is going to really test my coping skills and I know I really should not worry about this until it happens but I am stressed . I have already put in place .. escaping to my bedroom numerous times a day for quiet time with PC, FB and my headphones, taking a walk IF the weather cooperates.

There is alot of noise in my head daily the thought of adding more just , well just makes me want to run for the hills.

Thanks for reading my whine... or is it wine?

its no whine my dear friend

Sounds hectic! But I have no doubt you will get through it. Escaping to your bedroom sounds like a great plan. Remember its supposed to be fun, so try to have some of that too

[middlepath]

I was trying to think of something helpful to say to you, but I am at a loss. I will be in a similar situation for a couple of weeks, so I guess i will just say, may we both come out of it with our nerves in tact, and may we have a peaceful place that gives us a sense of calm during the loud, busy days of company.

Oh...and I don't know if this is helpful, but it may make you laugh : )...I bit someones head off today for saying, "enjoy the peace this season brings". I replied with "not everyone finds the holidays peaceful. I hate the holidays with a capital H!!!" I guess I am feeling grumpy today.

[~Christina]

I know the Holidays are stressful for everyone MI or not ... I have a game plan and back ups if one or more of my coping skills fail ... I will probably fall to pieces once its over lol

[Trippin2.0]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

I know the Holidays are stressful for everyone MI or not ... I have a game plan and back ups if one or more of my coping skills fail ... I will probably fall to pieces once its over lol

Don't you just wish there was a bright giant squishy jumping castle to fall into?

I do I love jumping castles, I think one day when I have my own house I will buy one for my back yard!

[~Christina]

OOOOOooooo Lia !!

I love those damn things ! I miss having Amanda young... Her and I use to do all kinds of stuff like that ! Maybe that could be a new treatment for BP hehehehe

[Trippin2.0]

I love that idea!!!

Maybe we could do a study on the Effects of Jumping Castles in the treatment of Bipolar Disorder!!!!

I'm sure there will be quite a few volunteers, so the demographic will be diverse.

Annnd if nobody wants to join, we can just go ahead and enjoy it anyway!

[sweepy62]

Omg christina im wishing you the best of luck, dont let the loud mouth into your bedroom, I hate changes in my atmosphere.

[~Christina]

Lia .. really we should do our own study .. gawd knows ours would be more accurate than some stuff dude sitting at a desk

Oh the ball pits .. Amanda use to "swim" in them .. her and I are so going to do that when I go down to Florida to see her in a few weeks .

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by sweepy62

Omg christina im wishing you the best of luck, dont let the loud mouth into your bedroom, I hate changes in my atmosphere.

Yes Atmosphere really sums it up !! Thank you ..

Christina, thanks! I reminded myself beforehand that I had meds, my hub, and I gave myself permission to go to my room and lay down if I needed to. Things went pretty well and I didnt end up needing to. You will do fine!

[~Christina]

Emomom .... I think having a game plan is a life saver... When I posted this thread I was in a hot mess worried ... It amazing to me how a few people reminding me I can get thru it all .... Helps soooooo much ! So thank you too