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#1
May 02, 2014, 03:34 PM
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My boyfriend is Bipolar II and I'm finding he doesn't have a filter when he talks. He talks about my nationality (he's white, I'm Hispanic) in derogatory terms. I know sometimes it's in jest, but it's constant, and I'm wondering if it has to do with his dx
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May 02, 2014, 03:43 PM
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It could. I talk really crazy when I'm manic but not hypomanic. Sometimes you can't stop the **** that comes out of your mouth.
Have you told him it's really bothering you? He may not know you don't like the jokes and will hopefully stop when he does. He might just be a jerk but I don't know him so who knows. Not me. Anyway bipolar is not an excuse to say whatever you want with no consequence. Even if it is because of a mood episode he may need extra help right now. Med adjustment or more therapy or something. I always get extra help when I'm super irritable because it is no excuse to treat my husband like dirt.
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#3
May 02, 2014, 04:09 PM
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Thats not a filter problem. I think your bf is a racist.
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May 02, 2014, 04:20 PM
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#5
May 02, 2014, 04:29 PM
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I should hope he's not racist. He says he loves me, that I bring a sense of stability to his life...
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May 02, 2014, 04:35 PM
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Yeah I don't know about that being a matter of dx. You may want to say something to him about it.
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May 02, 2014, 04:51 PM
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I think someone can love you and feel like they
are superior to you. Maybe that is the attraction? Please do not think that I am being racist - these are just examples of what I mean Of course I love you, even though you are (insert race here) I may be bp, at least I am not (insert race here), but I love you regardless |
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#8
May 02, 2014, 05:15 PM
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I'm bipolar II, and I know that in my worst manic moments I've never said anything I didn't already feel, but was maybe too scared or smart, really, to say.
That must be really hard for you 
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#9
May 02, 2014, 07:03 PM
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I dated a Hispanic who was imbued in Mexican culture. This was very different from what I was used to experiencing. But on a personal level, I only saw how buetiful she was, and also how she was a trustworthy capable person. And how fortunate I was having met her. And her kids were raised well.
There I go again bragging about her! 
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May 02, 2014, 10:32 PM
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It's not directed at me personally, its more his generalization. About Hispanic culture, music, food...what have you. He loves me quite deeply, and we get along great, but I wish he wouldn't voice his opinions on them quite so loudly...
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#11
May 03, 2014, 02:51 AM
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If he does it all the time then it sounds like racism. I know a woman and she says she's bipolar but is generally just horrible and says really thoughtless stuff to people all the time. I'm never sure if it's part of her illness or not, as personally I've done and said some bad things but when I've calmed down (or sometimes while I'm saying it) I'm realising I'm overstepping the mark but I can't stop myself.
Sorry I know this doesn't help, but I agree with the others going about and saying hurtful things all the time (to me anyway) doesn't seem like bipolar, and if it's just directed at you then he might just be racist. |
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#12
May 03, 2014, 05:59 AM
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If you had written that there are specific times (during an episode) where he generally lacks a filter (different subjects, random people) and is just as suprized as you are by what pops out of his mouth... Then sure, I can say I relate to that because my filter malfunctions at times.
But you mention that its "constant" this issue where he shoots off his mouth with total disregard to your feelings and he has a favourite topic too. I must agree, from what you've written, he sounds pretty racist to me. Just because he's dating you, doesn't prove he isn't racist. I've seen it over and over in my life, where the friend, gf/bf is the "exception to the rule"...
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#13
May 03, 2014, 07:16 AM
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May 03, 2014, 08:05 AM
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Then I'm going to agree and say it is not a bipolar thing, he's just racist. And a jerk.
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