[wachiki92]

In friendship or romantically. constantly thinking about them and doing things for them. spending all your time with them. or deciding you no longer love your significant other and having an affair with this person wether you truly have feelings for them or not. or any other stories that makes you wonder what you were thinking

[jesusplay]

I don't think this is exclusive to people with bipolar

[wachiki92]

So I can't ask a question for a couple stories. I'm not looking to compare or anything. just stories. but thanks.

[lilypup]

well, I agree this happens to a lot of people...but it has happened often to me when I am manic. I will develop what I call a "crush" on someone. Sometimes it is a romantic interest, sometimes a mentor, a boss, a husband of a friend....you name it. Can be someone of either sex. Then I proceed to follow them around and try to impress them. I even do what I call "light stalking" where I pay attention to their coming s and goings. (I did this mostly in college.) I've never scared anyone or anything but am sure I have been annoying .I've never wanted to hurt anyone or do anything dangerous. I had to quit a job once because I started crying every time I saw the boss I had a crush on. These episodes are always followed by a huge crash.
I know for me this is my bipolar at work. I do stuff in these episodes I would never due "normally". I just get fixated on someone and have to have their attention. I'm glad you brought this up...I knew this behavior was part of my BP but didn't know others did it too.

[Skitz13]

It happens to me all the time when I'm manic. It's mostly directed toward men. I flirt, get what I want then become stable or depressed and lose interest. lol poor guys!!!

[BipolaRNurse]

That is actually more of a borderline trait than a bipolar one. Not that it doesn't happen in bipolar, though, and that's where the hypersexuality comes in. It's the obsession-and-rejection part that sounds more like BPD to me. Just throwing that out there.

[HALLIEBETH87]

I have been dxd BPD too and, well, I do this a lot.....especially in the past. And a girl who is no longer my friend who was once my best friend and I nearly hate her. I don't like anyyyythiiing about her. And I cant forgive her. Im angry in her prescence completely. Its bad.

[cashart10]

I get this way occasionally but only when manic. I will share with you an email I once actually sent to someone I was feeling this way about. Please pardon the length.

"I have developed an unhealthy attachment to you. I've been trying to explain this to you, but I didn't even understand the problem. When relating to most people, I do have a filter and I can recognize what is normal and abnormal, acceptable and unacceptable behavior. But sometimes I develop unhealthy attachments. I have done this since I can remember. I am afraid this is what is becoming of me to you. I can stop emailing you--I may tell my husband to hide my laptop, but I have been rehearsing conversations with you out loud, almost incessantly, when I am alone. And I have thought of you as being almost superhuman.

I have obsessed over other things too that are becoming disturbing to me. There have been mornings when I started reading an email, or even a sentence from an email, and reread it over and over and over until the afternoon, thinking "I will just read this once more." And this is while the kids just play around me. Plus, my nervous laughter or my talking to myself has caused my daughter to ask what I am laughing about or who I am talking to...and I think she knows it's not normal. And I have to make excuses around my husband. I'm not sure how sick this email makes me but please don't do anything without discussing it with me. I realize I have some dysfunctional tendencies."

This was written to another woman, a mentor to me. Thankfully, she just said she would pray for me and didn't do anything to physically separate herself from me. Now I see this as insanity!!

[lilypup]

I'm sorry...don't take this the wrong way but I am LOL at your e-mail. That sounds like something I TOTALLY would send when manic. And girl or guy...it did not matter.

[Alone & confused]

I'm bipolar and whether that's a factor or not I AM DAMN WELL obsessed with my boyfriend and it's driving me insane! I can be mad as Hell at him and question whether or not I even want to be with him and still obsess over where he is, what he's doing or who he's with. It's to the point where I can barely function if I don't know what he's doing. I'm constantly wondering how he really feels about me, can I trust him? Is he lying or keeping things from me? It's ridiculous! I don't know if it's him, me or the MI! Whatever it is I HATE feeling this way!! I want to be secure and stable in my relationship, comfortable, not obsessively checking up on him, & thinking everything to death!

[LornaMorello]

I feel like this is my life in a nutshell. . . its rare time that I just focus on me.
therapists call it a 'coping mechanism'
*shrug*

[bleutamales]

I used to be like this. Even after I was married I would develop huge stalking crushes on the most inappropriate men. But I was also obsessively jealous over any move my husband would make, even him just looking (or me imagining he was looking) at another woman would put me over the edge for DAYS. I don't know when I started to not care about him looking or talking to women or when I stopped questioning when he was more than 10 minutes late coming home from work. I think the right combo of meds helped a lot because I had been like that since forever. I also stopped having those mind-bending crushes. I think a lot having the crushes has to do with wanting to be validated by someone new and exciting. And the obsessive jealousy is (at least for me) part of my panic disorder.

[Dix888]

This happens to everyone who falls in love. Or who gets into a deep, fun friendship. It's not just us bipolar folks. As far as an affair, it's not a good idea but if you just keep that as a fantasy, it's fun. Don't worry about it!

Originally Posted by wachiki92

In friendship or romantically. constantly thinking about them and doing things for them. spending all your time with them. or deciding you no longer love your significant other and having an affair with this person wether you truly have feelings for them or not. or any other stories that makes you wonder what you were thinking