Affection

MissTery · Aug 07, 2014 at 10:37 AM

Do those with BPD crave more affection? I'm super affectionate, and consistently telling my bf how much I love him and how much he means to me. He's constantly holding me, telling me how much he loves me, how he needs me more than I need him... Resting his head on my shoulder. My bf, who has BP2, BPD and anxiety also told me I was very affectionate, and it's weird for him to have someone kiss him and hold him.

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Standup2me · Aug 07, 2014 at 12:24 PM

I find that I am the opposite.

I, so often, don't want to be touched, kissed, cooed at

You are lucky.

~Christina · Aug 07, 2014 at 01:47 PM

Sometimes all the kissing and affection can cause a sensory overload .. It happens to me at times ...

Aug 07, 2014 at 01:50 PM

Im with Standoff, I feel like a Seinfeld character and dont do the hugging thing at all, freaks me out.

TheatreKid · Aug 07, 2014 at 03:43 PM

I definitely do not crave affection. I don't mind it sporadically, but it's not high on my list of wants unless it is non-physical affection, like a good honest talk, a term of endearment, or other related things. Those type of things I enjoy in moderation.

loophole · Aug 07, 2014 at 03:43 PM

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Do those with BPD crave more affection? I'm super affectionate, and consistently telling my bf how much I love him and how much he means to me. He's constantly holding me, telling me how much he loves me, how he needs me more than I need him... Resting his head on my shoulder. My bf, who has BP2, BPD and anxiety also told me I was very affectionate, and it's weird for him to have someone kiss him and hold him.

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I am so rediculois about wanting affection.. I've always been a dreamy starry eyed lover type... in my head anyway.... I'm a guy.. (Sam smith - stay with me youtube it hehe) I should of been a girl

muller1209 · Aug 07, 2014 at 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by MissTery

Do those with BPD crave more affection? I'm super affectionate, and consistently telling my bf how much I love him and how much he means to me. He's constantly holding me, telling me how much he loves me, how he needs me more than I need him... Resting his head on my shoulder. My bf, who has BP2, BPD and anxiety also told me I was very affectionate, and it's weird for him to have someone kiss him and hold him.

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mine goes back and fourth. sometimes i am very affectionate. but normally i dont like being touched very much.

Double Edge · Aug 08, 2014 at 03:26 AM

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Originally Posted by MissTery

Do those with BPD crave more affection? I'm super affectionate, and consistently telling my bf how much I love him and how much he means to me. He's constantly holding me, telling me how much he loves me, how he needs me more than I need him... Resting his head on my shoulder. My bf, who has BP2, BPD and anxiety also told me I was very affectionate, and it's weird for him to have someone kiss him and hold him.

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I waffle back and forth from being super affectionate towards my husband, almost to the point of annoying him with attention, to being totally unresponsive when he tries to console me during my rages or mood swings. He'll try to hug me, and I'll just stand there. Sometimes I'll yell at him to go away and leave me alone, usually locking myself in the bathroom. Even when I'm mad though, if I'm leaving for the day (to work or whatever) I'll always kiss him and say "I love you," because if I don't, I always feel guilty afterwards and a little panicked about "what if something happens and that's the last time we see each other" kind of thing, which turns into horrible anxiety all day. He can get super affectionate too, saying "I love you" over and over, and sometimes it's just too much for me, and I annoyingly reply, "Okay, already, I love you too..." It's just like an overload sometimes if I'm not in that "loving" mood, I suppose. He's not diagnosed with anything, but I have Bipolar I.

lunatic soul · Aug 08, 2014 at 04:27 AM

I need all the time tell my love how much I love him, to hug him and kiss him. I need to hear from him that he loves me too etc, I just cant live without it, I doubt his feelings if he doesnt say it very often.

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Standup2me Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 3,475 10 243 hugs given	Aug 07, 2014 at 12:24 PM #2 I find that I am the opposite. I, so often, don't want to be touched, kissed, cooed at You are lucky. __________________ What's so funny about peace, love and understanding? Elvis Costello
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~Christina Legendary Wise Elder Community Liaison Member Since Jul 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 22,450 (SuperPoster!) 12 12.7k hugs given	Aug 07, 2014 at 01:47 PM #3 Sometimes all the kissing and affection can cause a sensory overload .. It happens to me at times ... __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~
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anon8515 Guest Posts: n/a	Aug 07, 2014 at 01:50 PM #4 Im with Standoff, I feel like a Seinfeld character and dont do the hugging thing at all, freaks me out.
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lunatic soul Grand Member Member Since Aug 2014 Location: somewhere Posts: 906 9 55 hugs given	Aug 08, 2014 at 04:27 AM #9 I need all the time tell my love how much I love him, to hug him and kiss him. I need to hear from him that he loves me too etc, I just cant live without it, I doubt his feelings if he doesnt say it very often.
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