[venusss]

............. and started acting overly concerned. They mentioned ****ing kindling theory too.

Life, why are you doing that to me. This is the last place where I need to defend myself and my stances. It's enough she is not accepting my non-heterosexuality... if she starts to forcing me to get "help", I am not sure how will I handle it.

[catman1975]

People watch too much TV.

[~Christina]

Arghhhhhhhhhhhh gahhhhh ! The old "chemical imbalance" .... Well since you cant rewind the time and change the channel before she even sees it .. I guess just try to avoid avoid avoid the topic if at all possible ... Maybe just suck it up and let her ramble on about it and nod here and there and hopefully the topic will be become boring to her quick enough... Your a grown woman... Do what you think is best for you.

I'd hug you but I know you hate them ! Hang in there somehow!

[Victoria'smom]

Can you agree to therapy every two weeks and slowly phase it out? Ie. 2 sessions @ 2 weeks, 2 sessions @ 3 weeks,2 @ 4 weeks, 2 @ 6 weeks, 2 @ 8 wks, 2 @12 weeks, 2 at 4 month, than regularly every 6 months.

That way you can tell her your under someone else's care and tell the therapist you want to phase to every 6 months because you have BP but have problems with traditional treatment but your family stresses about it so your solution is to do "check ups" and you'll be honest as long as the session Did schedule stays the same and s/he does not mention medication as it'll result in termination.

[Trippin2.0]

Although my situation was more the opposite (mom thinking bp is a conspiracy after watching a program on tv) I pretty much did what Christina suggested... Hmmm,aaaahh,nod,nod, avoid avoid avoid...


That's until she got a tad too passionate about the subject...


Then I brought out the big guns, printed her a bunch of my posts and made a deal; if after reading those she thinks my experiences are normal we never mention Bp again and I will accept I don't have it... If not, she must STFU about her opinions... 😂


Hopefully big pharma will exit your house soon.

Ps. She found my threads disturbing and couldn't sleep for days. 😈


Don't worry I won't hug even though I want to😉

[toshia123110]

My parents choose to think I'm just passionate. Parents will usually cling onto whatever makes them feel better, and they can understand. I would either print out some information on BP or maybe give her some good websites to look at with correct information. I know trying to explain this disorder to someone that doesn't have it is one of the most challenging things I've ever tried to do.

[Silent Void]

It is chemistry. The human body is basically a biological battery. We run on chemistry.

[HALLIEBETH87]

My granny (who is basically my mom) says I get so down because I am a perfectionist. ?? Really?

[hamster-bamster]

Venus,

chemical imbalance usually goes hand-in-hand with hereditary, no?

So you can turn the tables and say that she has to get help. Hopefully she will shut up on this issue then.

Also, if the kindling theory is true, there is more urgency for HER to get help than for you because you are young.

[hamster-bamster]

PS Beautiful Ukrainian hair!!

[Sinking Feeling]

Originally Posted by Silent Void

It is chemistry. The human body is basically a biological battery. We run on chemistry.

Absolutely correct. Everything is based on a chemical reaction. Everything we see, hear, touch, taste, feel, smell, think, chemical reactions. Alter any of that even a little and stuff can happen

[~Christina]

Has your Mom gotten over it all yet? (((Hopeful)))

[venusss]

I will reply individually later, now bit tired.

I think I managed to convice her I am much better lately and that I will be careful with myself.

Will see where it goes. Managed to refocus her attention.

[venusss]

Arghhhhhhhhhhhh gahhhhh ! The old "chemical imbalance" .... Well since you cant rewind the time and change the channel before she even sees it .. I guess just try to avoid avoid avoid the topic if at all possible ... Maybe just suck it up and let her ramble on about it and nod here and there and hopefully the topic will be become boring to her quick enough... Your a grown woman... Do what you think is best for you.

Thanks. I did try to explain myself though, because that is my compulsion lol.

Can you agree to therapy every two weeks and slowly phase it out? Ie. 2 sessions @ 2 weeks, 2 sessions @ 3 weeks,2 @ 4 weeks, 2 @ 6 weeks, 2 @ 8 wks, 2 @12 weeks, 2 at 4 month, than regularly every 6 months.

Honestly, I don't really have time and money for that and I have no strenght right now to be dealing with the system.

Then I brought out the big guns, printed her a bunch of my posts and made a deal; if after reading those she thinks my experiences are normal we never mention Bp again and I will accept I don't have it... If not, she must STFU about her opinions... ��


Hopefully big pharma will exit your house soon.

Ps. She found my threads disturbing and couldn't sleep for days. ��

Mom doesn't know like 80% of what goes inside of my head. Not sure I should ever tell her. I guess my thing would be to appear as functional as possible, which can be hard sometmes... especially since my mom's definition of functional means sleeping in night, eating regularly and not joking about molotovs and burning tires and defenestrations each time I watch the news channel.

I would either print out some information on BP or maybe give her some good websites to look at with correct information. I know trying to explain this disorder to someone that doesn't have it is one of the most challenging things I've ever tried to do.

Problem is she doesn't speak English so I cannot link her to Icarus, Mad in America, Altmentalities or Beyond meds. Plus she tends to get into "TV told me so" mindset at times. Maybe I can find some alternative source in Czech.

(funnily, she is so very alternative. Half of our library are herbaries and she thinks I use too much "artificial" cosmetics, that I should just make my own from stuff found in meadow and bought in healthstores.........)

It is chemistry. The human body is basically a biological battery. We run on chemistry.

That does not mean I am defective chemically. Hey, I act less crazy and stupid that most people who fall in love.......... and that is not called a progressive illness, even if it's been proven that falling in wub lowers your IQ. (Fun fact? I seem to be incapable of falling in love with a person. I have crushes, sure. But I fall in love with whole countries. The more troubled, the better...............)

Venus,

chemical imbalance usually goes hand-in-hand with hereditary, no?

So you can turn the tables and say that she has to get help. Hopefully she will shut up on this issue then.

Also, if the kindling theory is true, there is more urgency for HER to get help than for you because you are young.

that sounds great, especially since i suspected for long time that I gotten some of crazy from her (mom blames father's side. Nice of her, since most of them are dead.)

I might use that though.

PS Beautiful Ukrainian hair!!

awww, thanks!

Has your Mom gotten over it all yet? (((Hopeful)))

right now she is focused on my political activism, of which she is strangely approving.... eventhough i suspect if something gets me in trouble it will be my camping in Prague's downtown and not untreated bipolar. Maybe to her that (and the fact that I in fact can hold a job and all that) is a proof that i am not flat out crazy yet.

Though who knows. Camping on cobblestones can drive one manic, eh.

[venusss]

And yes, I do realize how ironic it is and how many would trade and wish their relatives believed in chemical imbalance.

Wish we could do a belief swap.

[~Christina]

I would think camping on cobblestones would be a pain in the backside But not drive you to be unstable!

[pawn78]

Venusss is entitled to her own opinions. I also believe bipolar disorder is related to a neurological imbalance, but I am not arrogant enough to pretend I am professional neurologist. Even the best MDs and scientists in the world don't know what exactly causes bipolar disorder!!!

Venusss: "zůstat pozitivní miláčku!" (I don't really know Czech, but my ex-wife is czech so I can dabble.)

[venusss]

Originally Posted by pawn78

Venusss is entitled to her own opinions. I also believe bipolar disorder is related to a neurological imbalance, but I am not arrogant enough to pretend I am professional neurologist. Even the best MDs and scientists in the world don't know what exactly causes bipolar disorder!!!

Venusss: "zůstat pozitivní miláčku!" (I don't really know Czech, but my ex-wife is czech so I can dabble.)

Thanks.

It's just I dealt with it so long, managed to thrive somehow.... so I don't need my closest family to be undermining my achievements.

Plus, the TV show that mentioned is called "Home alone" and is focused on women who are "home alone" in the morning lol. Few minute segments of stuff...... how can anybody take it for granted, eh.

[venusss]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

I would think camping on cobblestones would be a pain in the backside But not drive you to be unstable!

Well, we don't actually sleep there. And tents are more of... tent-shaped-banners.

And this activism............. yes, it can drive one wee bit unstable.

[tipper1492]

My mom; I feel confident; had some sort of mental disorder. OCD for sure because she could never stop doing her house over, and the things in it. Something of a interior decorator for others homes as well. She and I had some bad moments. Like "why can't you be like so & so." Drove me nuts, and I was BP without knowing it for many more years. Only a step dad, no real father who was dead a week before I was born. She may have been BP or something else altogether. She has been gone for years now, and I must admit, I may have felt some re-leaf. If she had known I was BP, things would have been much worse between us.