social anxiety vs the need to make friends

I've always been more comfortable just hanging out one on one with someone or in a small group setting. But being in a New area, it's hard to make new friends to do that with.

I could go to group playdates or something of that sort, But it's nearly impossible with my social anxiety.

I never fit in with the cool kids and I feel like it's no better now. What if I say something stupid? What if I have nothing to talk about? You know, that weird awkward silence. What if they don't get my sense of humor?

How do you overcome this?

i stopped caring about what other ppl thought of me
love me or hate me this is me .........i been called every vile name in the book by ppl over my life time hell i was called the anti christ by my mother's friends ( did not know i was hiding under the dinning room table and i over heard them talking about me) never told my mom

but i also got ppl that love me and would bend over backwards to help me out (including massively illegal stuff ) with out a 2nd thought

u can not control how ppl are going to react to u....u can only be yourself and accept ppl as they come hope they do the same with u

as a mommy u always have something to talk about with other moms...your kids...new teaching skills...new toys...how the guy does not help with poop clean up ....books/ tv/movies/music u like/seen.....and do not lie i been in the room u ladies will talk other stuff about the guys too (learned things i never wanted to know about friends )

just fall back on the golden rule
treat others as u wish to be treated by other ........be nice and open see where it goes .......u will make some friends