[rockensoul]

I have had an on again/off again relationship with a man who I met 3 1/2 years ago during a crumbling marriage for bit me and for him....I had lived with him up until almost a year ago when we had a lot of tension in the home...he blames some of it on my bi polar and his ground rules for his home between my kids and I. Things like organization and cleanliness etc. Which I do certainly understand. He has invited my kids and I to move back in this year, but something came up the other day that he says now he is somewhat fearfully again of my bi polar moods etc. Then he started to tell me about things such as "90% of all relationships with a partner who is bi polar fail" and "when we broke up last time, you almost had a relationship with someone you met online that bordered on the sexually promiscuous" . I saw that for what it was and thank GI'd did not go thru with it. My BF also was online with women but did not meet anyone. I was always honest with him about everything but then I feel when we have an argument about my Bipolar he throws all this in my face. It truly hurts my heart and my feelings. Yesterday, I slept the entire day away in my Apt even though I had my kids with me. They are 17, 11 and 8 and they are the loves of my life. They were able to manage and feed themselves well yesterday as I had ready made food on hand. But I want to be the fun loving , caring Mom I used to be. The one who seemed like she had it all together. It seems like once I got diagnosed, BI Polar I , about 2 years ago, my BF reminds me about it every time something goes wrong in our relationship. I AM Tired Of feeling like a "defect". He says I am not. And i know I'm not, none of us here are. But I do feel different. I wish I had NEVER told him about my Bi Polar diagnosis. No one is perfect. He does say what a beautiful and loving woman I am. But then he says when I go bi polar or moody he says that I become a different person. He said my rages have all pretty much disappeared. I agree. But any time I display anything opposite of what he says like a disagreement or tension, he says "bi polar ". Very unfair. Very hurtful.

[Homeira]

Is it at all possible for you to have some distance with this man? I think you should try to just focus on yourself and your kids for now. A relationship can take a lot out of people, and it sounds like you two have a lot to sort through. Maybe it is too much for you right now to deal with. The things he is saying to you is really not ok. A relationship is supposed to make us feel better, not worse.

[Trippin2.0]

I'm curious...


What did he blame your "defect" on prior to diagnosis?


Because surely you weren't just all of a sudden bipolar out of the blue and radically changed into a different person over night... Right?


If it were me, I would bring that up as a discussion topic, the fact that you are still you, the same you he was with before a doctor intervened....


Idk if I could stay with someone who can't see past my label and who wants me, but not all of me...


Now if you're a danger to his kids or their emotional and mental wellbeing, well then that's a different story, but I don't see that being communicated in your post at all.