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Aug 30, 2015 at 01:29 PM
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I am not sure if it's just not feeling confident, low self-esteem or a little social anxiety but I am 47 and have very few friends. I am not working any longer due to BP so I miss social interactions. The few friends (2 or 3) I have made over the years seem to be "hit and miss" since when I am depressed I don't leave the house. I think they have "given up on me." It is just very lonely.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 01:33 PM
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yes, especially right now ...
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Aug 30, 2015 at 01:36 PM
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Aug 30, 2015 at 02:09 PM
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Yeah, I have 1 friend outside my husband.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 02:32 PM
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I have no friends. I push people away because I don't trust them. I do have a boyfriend but I don't trust him either.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 02:47 PM
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I make friends fairly easily, but I suck at maintaining them. I get so wrapped up in myself I forget about them.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:03 PM
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I have never been good at making friends, well before my bipolar diagnosis. I wish there was a rulebook I could follow to make better friends even in the face of having bipolar, but also where I work right now/my lifestyle makes it hard to make friends.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:19 PM
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I wouldn't say that I can't... I just don't really want to. I don't know why, but I feel like most friendships are pointless. I don't have any friends where I live right now other than my fiance. I think it could be that I've given up because I've gone through so many over the years. Or I'm just becoming more antisocial... I only have a handful of friends who live where I used to, and I talk to them occasionally.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:22 PM
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I have a few acquaintances but only 1 friend besides my husband. I try to make friends but I'm not very good at it and the mood swings over the years haven't helped me maintain the few friendships I do manage to make.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:23 PM
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I could easily in the past, but always got disappointed by them not reciprocating how much I'm putting into the relationship so I don't put myself out there as much anymore. Also, it was really easy when I was I was hypo manic. I was the bomb (my crazy mind though so)! LOL Yeah, right! That was sarcastic by the way!
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:35 PM
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I don't have friends right now but I am not lonely. Or rather I do have a long time telephone friend who I don't call much but none where I live here or have any regular contact with. My daughter doesn't deal well with the bipolar part of my life so I heavily edit how I am with her. I act socially acceptable around people. I used to partially dissociate to do that, to function at work when I worked, and life, etc. Now I have resolved that part of me. I attend a highly structured, role playing, social skills group twice a week which has taught me a lot realistically but I haven't been able to let myself get close to anyone so far for quite a few years. My husband and I divorced after approx 33 years some years ago but I hid a lot from him too. He was never my "best friend."
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:42 PM
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I have about 3 good friends, but 2 live out of town.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:46 PM
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I wanted to add - the only time I've been IP was right after I was diagnosed. And I was soon popular in the IP program. Or at least I was popular in my own head (I was manic). I actually do think I did a good job of making friends both because we were all in the same boat and because I was crazy/charismatic at the time.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 03:48 PM
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Aug 30, 2015 at 05:14 PM
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I'm friends with my sister and brother in law and my brother and his fiancé (though we're kind of in a tiff right now). That's it. I am so so so lonely without my husband. He was my everything, my best friend, my true love...I don't know what to do now that he's gone. I spend the weekend shut in my house because if my brother is not available I've got no one else to call. It's awful. I'm so sad about it. I miss my husband so much it hurts right in my heart.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 05:23 PM
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I don't have any friends
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Aug 30, 2015 at 08:09 PM
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when im hypo.. it seems like I have plenty of friends and easy to meet people. Ill meet people at coffee shop and talk with strangers. normally, even while depressed I have about 4 good friends. id rather have a few select close friends who are Real, then a bunch of friends, aquaintances who are fake. also im close with my grandma and aunt I consider them family
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Aug 30, 2015 at 08:23 PM
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Friends? I have heard of such mythical beings as friends.
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Aug 30, 2015 at 08:31 PM
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It is hard for me to make and keep friends offline. I have 0 friends (outside of psychcentral), and the friends I used to have either vanished, stopped talking to me, or didn't want to make the effort anymore. Maybe even a combination of the 3.
When I try to make friends out in the "real world" I feel like I mess something up with the inability to control the irritability or depression. Maybe people just find me a downer? I feel like no one is ever alone here though 
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Aug 30, 2015 at 08:51 PM
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i can make acquaintances... i learned how to push myself to talk to people by reflecting on my old bad habits when trying to back then... friends, kinda hard since that takes two, but ive been fortunate to be able to deal with my standards for what i consider friends... in the past few years, ive made a healthy amount of friends, but there are other problems in my life, and i made mistakes in those times... so.... do i have trouble... not exactly... depends... having failed to make friends with the last acquaintance i made didnt define me as troubled with friends... just taught me what to do the next time...
all in all, ive met some really good people... because i was able to break the mold and make friends with people out of my norm... which changed my perspective... im glad i met all of them, even if for the time i had them... 
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