[Alone & confused]

Please know that this IS NOT a pity party that I'm throwing for myself. I'm just ranting because it seems that no matter what I say or do I can't seem to help those I most desperately want to and it's killing me to see them suffer!! What is the point of being an empath if you lack the ability to help heal people?! That's like handing me the keys to a shiny new car but never being able to drive it! All I want to do is help make the world a better place whenever possible but it doesn't seem to BE possible!

[wildflowerchild25]

I understand what you're going through. As an empath you have the ability to actually feel the pain and suffering around you as though it was your own. I used to be the same way. But I had to disconnect. Especially now. If I were to let my students' pain affect me I would never be able to get up in the morning. So I disconnect and protect myself. However I don't forget about what my students are going through. I help them in any way I can. But unfortunately you can never help and heal everyone. Just do your part, do a little bit.

[Onward2wards]

I know the feeling. Even if you can't do all that you want to, it's still worthwhile to do what you can. That counts for something.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25

I understand what you're going through. As an empath you have the ability to actually feel the pain and suffering around you as though it was your own. I used to be the same way. But I had to disconnect. Especially now. If I were to let my students' pain affect me I would never be able to get up in the morning. So I disconnect and protect myself. However I don't forget about what my students are going through. I help them in any way I can. But unfortunately you can never help and heal everyone. Just do your part, do a little bit.

Thank you! It's getting harder for me to disconnect as I get older now though. I'm off my bipolar meds, I'm (40 something ), having More trouble with the mood swings as it is....could that be making me more "sensitive" too, as far as the empath thing goes? It seems to be that one is feeding off the other. Like, the more I have trouble with the rapid cycling, the more I'm aware of my surroundings. I can barely even watch the news anymore to see what the weather is going to be like without hearing about all the evil in the world and being extremely upset about it!

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Onward2wards

I know the feeling. Even if you can't do all that you want to, it's still worthwhile to do what you can. That counts for something.

Thank you! It just doesn't satisfy my soul when it's "not enough" to actually help anyone though. I feel Like a I'm wasting space if I'm not helping anyone. I don't know if that makes any sense or not.

[Alone & confused]

So TELL me that the universe isn't sending me a message!
I've been up for 27 hrs now, my best friend who I love more than life Itself is going through a really rough time and it's killing me that I can't do anything to help him,
My granddaughter woke up with a bad cough and a fever,
I was srambling to the bathroom COMPLETELY oblivious to the fact that my son's dog "ripped a grumpy" in the doorway,
And, of course, I stepped in it barefoot with my daughter-in-law right behind me so she got in it too!
Then, I was running late getting my other son to morning detention (for being late the other day), so now here goes MORE DH.
The only good that has come from this day thus far is that I didn't wreck my truck this morning or hit anyone, or get pulled over for racing the clock!! That's it! The rest of the day has been cancelled!!

[Victoria'smom]

I'm sorry your day isn't going well. Is it getting better?

[Mountainbard]

Sorry you're having such a tough day. I have a lot of empathy too, and I used to want to change the world and feel like a failure because I couldn't. I finally learned that we change the world one person at a time, and not all people want to be helped. So while you are trying to help people-- and you probably succeed more often than you realize-- remember to be gentle to yourself as well.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Being an empath can be either a gift or a curse depending on how you look at it. Just because you have this ability doesn't mean you HAVE to help everyone. Sometimes just acknowledging that you're having the emotional fallout from being an empath can relieve the pressure. People have to save themselves, and it is impossible to help everyone that you see suffering. It isn't black and white, just because you can't help everyone doesn't mean you're useless. You likely help a lot more people than you are aware of.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

I'm sorry your day isn't going well. Is it getting better?

Well let's see, it seems to be running in cycles. It went from ok, to bad then worse, got better then I made it worse again, so yeah guess I'm alright for now. (I think!)

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Being an empath can be either a gift or a curse depending on how you look at it. Just because you have this ability doesn't mean you HAVE to help everyone. Sometimes just acknowledging that you're having the emotional fallout from being an empath can relieve the pressure. People have to save themselves, and it is impossible to help everyone that you see suffering. It isn't black and white, just because you can't help everyone doesn't mean you're useless. You likely help a lot more people than you are aware of.

Thanks! Yeah, I kinda went into hypo I guess. I didn't have a "save the world" complex today but, the one or two people I did try to help, posed as a challenge for awhile. Annnnd I sorta crossed a line which made things intense for a minute. But it's ok now I think.....maybe....I'll be back. Getting a text.

Ok so I may not be out of the woods yet!
Now I forgot what I was going to say.

[Alone & confused]

That does it! I'm not leaving my house again and may not even speak to people until I come down off of this manic high!
This young boy at the gas station noticed I had three knives in my pocket and said 'ma'am, ma'am, you must be really safe! You've got three knives in your pocket!" OPEN UP WORLD AND SWALLOW ME WHOLE!