'Missing out'

Is there even such a thing as missing out? People like to point out all the wonderful things in life as examples of what you might 'miss out' on if...if you can't get out of bed, if you can't last another day, if any number of things. Maybe they don't use quite those words all the time, but it's cloaked in the guise of many communications - the vast majority of exclamations about the many wonders and beautiful things around us, if only we took the time to stop and appreciate them.

Which gets me to thinking, is there really such a thing as 'missing out'? What is is, and what isn't isn't. If something wonderful happens, but you aren't there and you don't know about it (if a tree falls in the woods...), have you 'missed out'? Are people who have gone before us in an untimely way 'missing out'? Is it possible to regret that after you're gone? It feels like an unnecessary burden, yet another expectation placed from the outside, to tie you to a place and a time.

Looked at from another perspective, can't something be wondrous and beautiful without requiring attendance? If I'm not there, does that make it any less beautiful or wondrous? No. It still is what it is, regardless of whether it's observed or not, and regardless of who the observers are, right?

This post is coming across darker than I thought, which is why I added the
trigger. I'm just irritable and anxious, and I want to just be right now. Sometimes the urge to run is overwhelming, as it is right now, even when other urges are blissfully quieter. Running away isn't a possibility, and that's making me angrier, which starts these thoughts going through my head. Feels like a spiral I can't get a hold of, so I thought maybe writing them out would help let them go some... we'll see.

When I feel like you do, I start slowly.
Step one- Be Grateful.

This is a great post.

I feel like I'm missing out. There are many things i would like to do but most of the time I just don't have anyone else to go with. Like go to an amusement park, go to the beach, many things out of the house that I feel uncomfortable doing alone. I'm not trying to end up on an episode of Dateline.

When I wake from a "the world is nothing but grey" or "Icant see the world through all the black" depression, yes I feel I'm missing a ton.
Life is meant to be lived and I never want to look back and think about the time wasted. It makes me so mad
But since I haven't figured out how to make those black times go away for good yet, all I can do is keep trying

Definetly missing out! But if I am not well enough to actually enjoy the activity, then it brings a lot of anxiety. When my husband says "your missing out it will be fun" I hear what he really means , " I really want you to come with us maybe it will put a smile on your face and I miss your smile."

No matter how small, a positive change deserves to be celebrated!

I miss out on things, sure. But my self-care is more important and if I need quiet time by myself, that takes priority over any social event. I rather have my peace of mind than put up a facade for some "fun" time. Sometimes, though, I do push myself out so I'm not isolating too much. It's a fine line.