Forgetting things again.

This past week, a lot has been circling in my mind. A lot happening. This seems to be a norm.

A few weeks ago, I woke up and didn't feel like smoking weed. As a smoker from 12 years old to now(almost 30), this was a weird thing for me. Since then I have somehow still haven't felt like it. One hit when I was hung over one time in the past 3 weeks. Anyways- I have noticed my medications have been actually working(lamotrigine, seroquil, prazosin)

My relationship suffered for 2 years because of my absent mind, and chaotic ways.

Now, what I am writing about is some advice.

Since my relationship was so bad my partner has almost a PTSD around when I forget things. Not smoking has helped me dramatically with my control and with losing things. This past week its been happening a lot.

Is there anyway I can approach the chaos of forgetting meds, a jacket, wallets, locking the door? Also how should I handle it when my partner gets triggered more than I do? Its weird for her because she was always the one with reason, and now I feel awful for her having such a trigger because of our past.

Thanks for reading. Listening. Maybe responding. This post may be a bit all over but thats why we are all here, community and care.

For meds, do you have a weekly pill container? I have one with morning and night containers for each day of the week, and I leave it on my kitchen counter. I can see at a glance, and every time I go into the kitchen, whether I've remembered to take them.

For the rest, maybe establishing routines will help? Set up a place by the front door (or garage door, whichever you use most) with a spot for your keys and wallet and a hook for your jacket. Start putting those things there every time you come in the house. Then, when you're ready to leave, all the things you need to take with you are right there. Don't expect any new routine to work immediately; just keep at it and over time it will become a more reliable habit.

I don't have any advice about triggering your partner, other than letting her know that you're aware of the trigger(s), and that you're trying to develop patterns and routines that help you to avoid the trigger(s).

I actually have that routine pretty solid. I put everything in the same spot every night, always. The jacket I forgot this morning was on her doorknob(not my house), when usually I put it with the rest of my clothing I lay out the night before.

I think its just when I wake up in a rush, or with a lot just already floating in my head.

I do have one of those weekly pill things, and I only use it when I travel. Great advice, I will definitely put in next to my wallet/keys/knife. My pill bottles are tucked in a corner of my desk, and although part of my routine I can see why they are forgotten.

I will work on these things. Thank you for your help and soothing words. Its hard not to judge myself when I forget things. Or when my brain hurts/triggers the person I love most.

Hope you're having a good day so far.

I have a weekly pill container to, but I have an app on my phone that reminds me the times I should take them. So in the morning, afternoon, and night an alarm goes off to remind me to take which pill. You can hit snooze for ten extra minutes if you're in the middle of something or whatever. But it stays there as a reminder until you put in that you've taken it. Adding in that you did taken your med when you didn't defeats the purpose, but it has helped me tremendously since I can easily forget to take them. I make sure to put mine where I know I can get to it easily and throw them in my bookbag the night before so I don't forget them when I go to work. I'm always in a rush in a morning and definitely could do that.

Can you afford a cleaning person?

My guy puts everything in it's entirety place for me and washes and hangs up clothes.

He cooks for the week and I put recipes in glass containers in the freezer.

I keep thinking track of passport,money,credit cards,ocean swimming glasses. Pet food. And inventory cause I'm so far from the city. So I don't run out of toilet paper,shampoos,conditioner and laundry and kitchen soap.