[Ocean Swimmer]

I don't tell my husband everything I do,and yes it would cause trouble.

Everyone lives their lives to the best of their abilities.

My husband lives in China. I do see him a few weeks every 2 months. For 20 years I've accepted the fact that he is asexual or nonsexual. His first marriage ended because of it. He's a good man. We have a certain type of love for one another. He knows about most of my men friends. He'd never understand even a hug or kiss from one of them, because it's obviously something he deems unimportant in life.

Before we were married I had heard this about him, but he was mostly accepting my advances. I did have a lot of money and property and two businesses.

He had a job and pension.

When I was young and first diagnosed I was put in a bad position by someone who gained my trust, namely my psychiatrist. I've posted about him only prescribing opioids and taking advantage of me for 7 years monthly then many years afterwards. Long deal.

The lover that I had, who died, I never had intercourse with. Just lots of showing love consideration some touching.

For those of you who are totally against this, fine. I don't intend to attempt to change your values, morals or ideas of how life should be lived.

I was so upset when my eml buddy turned out to be not to my taste, I posted about it to get it off my chest. I thought he could fill in the blanks in my life.

Part of my bipolar problems are because I don't have a physical outlet. My doctors continue to address this issue.

Thank you for listening. Nothing is ever as simple as it appears.

[Victoria'smom]

Does exercise help?

[Ocean Swimmer]

Yes. That's why I swim. But I get a very temporary rush.

Plus my meds make me feel very lathargic and tired. But so far these meds have been a better combo than most cocktails.

Does exercise help you and your family?

[Victoria'smom]

As a kid it helped a lot. As an adult it's hard to even get my family to walk to the corner store. I need to start exercising even without them.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Yes. I see you're on Effexor too. I think this is the one messing with my energy level.
I just spent 1/2 hour in the garden. So I'm content with that for now.

I'm sorry you are struggling with this. It sounds like you and your husband have an understanding, which is important. Do you two have an implicit, or explicit conversation about your needs?
Everyone needs love and physical touch. It's normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Sex is important.

[Hashi/bipolar mom]

Can you not find a hot Costa Rica beach sugar baby!? LOL

[BlueInanna]

Agree with all above. I'm in a sex-less relationship and it's really sad. My guy has ED and it's put him in a state where he won't even try anymore. We don't even cuddle anymore. This isn't about me and i'm not about to put all my **** out there right now, but i've sought it elsewhere when manic. I was reading last night about people not showing emotions, it's like he really has no need for physical affection and it's really driving me mad.
Can you have a talk with him about your needs as suggested above? These days, the rules aren't the same, there are open relationships, some people are polyamorous. But I do think it's important to be honest with him for your own conscience & sanity. I still feel so guilty about my past.

I agree with both of the above. I think it's only the deceit which makes it harmful.

[Ocean Swimmer]

We've talked till the cows come home.

Sometimes he makes promises, which he never keeps.

Other times it's a bad idea to bring it up as he just defends himself and hurts me by saying I'm not his type. I'm blond full figured ( thanks to the meds)and very tall.

His ex wife whom he never was physical with was supposedly his type. A skinny short black haired Coke addict.
I can't win.

[Victoria'smom]

Have you talked about having other partners?

[Ocean Swimmer]

Yes. Easy to find Ticos. But I'm not really attracted to them. Mexicans are sexier(some).
Ticos are tiny people for the most part. I'm almost 6' tall!

[hahayeahtotallylol]

I think everyone on the internet owns a business

[BlueInanna]

Originally Posted by Ocean Swimmer

Yes. Easy to find Ticos. But I'm not really attracted to them. Mexicans are sexier(some).
Ticos are tiny people for the most part. I'm almost 6' tall!

I've been with some shorter men. it was kinky and fun.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Yes. I've had experiences with shorter men when I was younger. It's like the super model with the Italian guy look! Ha ha.

[Ocean Swimmer]

I have a self storage company called Storage Depot.

[BlueInanna]

Business has not been good for me, I once had a very good company. I'm thinking of using the warehouse for people to store maybe boats & vessels. Until the lease is up a couple more years. Idk. Would you please pm me if you have any advice for me? Thx

[Ocean Swimmer]

Dear Blue. I pmed you this am. You need a professional to look over that contract and see if there are any loop holes to your benefit.