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Mar 13, 2016, 01:26 AM
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The closer I get to stability the more I'm finding myself and doing all the things I used to love doing. I feel like my husband preferred me ill and depending on him, because now he complains anytime I want to do anything. I'm at home with our kids damn near 24/7 and I just want to get out sometimes and enjoy life. He says he's fine with it, but as soon as I get back he complains non-stop about how I left. I feel like I can't really be myself because he wants me to be his version of me. I'm still learning who I am, and I'm afraid once I find out we won't be compatible.
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Mar 13, 2016, 07:35 AM
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Hi Lorrie.
I know. I've developed some traits from my husband. While I had been outgoing and friendly ( even thru different stages of bipolar ) he'd always been a loner. The biggest loner I've ever met. When I have friends over- he's like , gee I couldn't wait for them to leave. So I started socializing while he was in China. Not when he was home. He wants to retire sometime this or next year. I don't know what kind of spin that will put on things.
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Mar 13, 2016, 02:59 PM
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I have a relevant story...
I watched this TV show last year... "My 600 lb life". It's about (you guessed it) 600 lb people. Well, there was this 650-lb girl on one of the episodes who had a boyfriend who was normal sized. When she started losing weight, she was afraid he was going to leave her. It turned out that he *enjoyed* being her caretaker. Being a caretaker made him feel *wanted*. (He was used to being a loner, and it upset him that no one wanted to be around him... So when he became this girl's caretaker, he was so happy that someone wanted to be with him.) He didn't want her to lose weight because he was afraid she wouldn't want him anymore... Then he purposely tried to keep her fat. It sounds like your husband *enjoys* being your caretaker... maybe because it makes him feel wanted/loved. Do you think he has attachment issues? Quote:
 Whenever my sister has friends over, I can't wait for them to leave. (I tend to keep to myself and I don't really socialize too much, as I'm pretty introverted.)
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Mar 13, 2016, 09:45 PM
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Mar 13, 2016, 09:59 PM
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Are you anywhere that has NAMI nearby? They offer a family class that I've heard from others in NAMI can really help family members understand. There is a Peer to Peer class for peope with mental illness that I took and then the family class that is only family members. Plus mixed and separate support groups.
I've learned the more honest I am with my family the better they handle things, although I certainly hide plenty from them.
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