[lilypup]

I turn 57 in a few weeks. I had an idea to take a few friends (maybe about 10) out to a tea room for a little party. Most of these ladies are good friends who have stood by me through my illness and I owe them a great deal.

I've only been feeling stable for about two weeks. Do you think I should risk this event? I just panic at the thought of waking up depressed and unable to get out of bed that morning. That would be a disaster. I just never can know what's going to happen.

What do you guys think?

One of my favorite quotes is in my signature: "if you risk nothing, then you risk everything"

I think it very much applies here! If you don't go out to your party, you "risk" not being able to enjoy yourself on your birthday like you want to. If you go ahead with your party, there is a risk you will be depressed and you won't be able to enjoy yourself on your birthday like you want to.

Risk wise, there is no difference whether you want to hold the party or not. So, I say go for it! You have nothing to lose.

Besides, if you end up depressed, I think you'll feel a lot better knowing that you tried. If you don't try at all, you may be wondering what you could have missed, and then there may be guilt and regret (not to scare you).

Just my 2 cents!

[hopeless2015]

Even if you wake up depressed that day these are true friends who have seen you through rough times I say go for it to and give it your best shot at enjoying your day

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[Anrea]

I didn't go to my sons wedding.
I am not going to visit family this month after being offered a free ride to their state.

Your friends will understand whether you go or not. But if you want to make sure they don't plan something big, then you not attend, you should tell them. Or better yet, prepare your house, and put something together yourself. A "thanks for being my friend" party.

If you decide you are going. Plan ahead, get yourself something appropriate to wear early, dress up, and fix hair and make up a few times ahead of time, to get used to that presentation. If possible, go to the restaurant yourself alone one day, just to get a feel of the place, and where you would like to sit. I find doing things multiple times helps create the feeling of safety.

Everyone always thinks - oh yes, of course go.... but no one knows how hard it actually is for you.

I agree, your true friends will understand. If you think you can accomplish this, then go for it. Best wishes and I hope you have s good time.

[Tucson]

Have one of those freinds take you there and back. JMHO