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#1
Jun 21, 2016, 08:36 PM
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This is one of the things I hate most about bipolar.
It is so hard to tell a friend "Yes I want to see you, yes of course I still care for you, but I can't see anyone right now because I want to disappear."  "Sure a few days ago I thought I could make plans, but now I want to crawl in a hole."(I spelled UNPREDICTABILITY wrong and my OCD is going nuts!) |
 Anonymous37904, Anonymous45023, Anonymous59125, Anxiousvalkyrie, Daonnachd, gina_re, MusicLover82, Nammu
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#2
Jun 21, 2016, 08:38 PM
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I hate this too!!!! I totally understand. Big Hugs!!!
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#3
Jun 21, 2016, 08:53 PM
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I totally understand how you feel. I go through the exact same thing. It's so hard. Hugs.
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Bipolar I Borderline Personality Disorder ADHD Generalized Anxiety Disorder "You," he said, "are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain.” ― Emilie Autumn, The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls |
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Jun 21, 2016, 09:15 PM
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This happens to me all the time.
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Jun 21, 2016, 09:19 PM
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I've been called flaky for this exact reason. I could never at the time explain why I couldn't do things with them because this was before my dx.
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I'm bipolar 1, agoraphobic, ocd, and gad. Fairly happy go lucky. Prozac 20mg Geodon 80mg Saphris 10mg Lamictal 150mg All I can offer is my heartfelt honesty |
| Anonymous37883, Takeshi
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#6
Jun 21, 2016, 09:20 PM
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Yes, the internal chaos makes it hard to live a manageable life. I hang out at a mental health drop-in and we all live very much in the moment. Your friends are who ever showed up that day. I don't even attempt to socialize one-on-one anymore. It's too stressful.
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#7
Jun 21, 2016, 09:24 PM
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| cincidak, Takeshi
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Jun 21, 2016, 09:30 PM
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I've been known as a flake all my life. My brother blew up at me for cancelling after I specifically told him I need to cancel sometimes. I blew up in return and we haven't talked for 3 years since. I hate being flakey, but it's not like I chose it and can help it, even if other people assume I did and can.
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#9
Jun 21, 2016, 10:08 PM
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I understand. Sometimes I regret signing up for long-term commitments because I know I am going to have times that I am unable to follow through. I don't like being that way at all. In those moments I hate that I am unable to mobilize.
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"I knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." ~Lewis Carroll Bipolar I PTSD |
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#10
Jun 22, 2016, 06:41 AM
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This describes my experiences, too. I'm planning to rejoin my old book club after a 2 year absence. I read the book, and keep remembering that it's for tonight. My social associations are punctuated by gaps, intentions, lapses.
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| Anonymous37883, Anonymous59125
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Jun 22, 2016, 08:31 AM
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I totally relate. I keep my world very small - few friends, no clubs or ongoing social commitments - for this reason. After a day at work, I'm done. Even if I feel good, if I push it by doing too many things, I get manic. It's sad, and sometimes my friends are disappointed when I won't leave the house, but it is what it is. My two besties understand though, one has bipolar 1 and the other has had severe depression. They do a lot more than me socially, but they understand why I'm limited.
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Jun 24, 2016, 07:14 AM
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Thank you all for responding. I have tried to explain this to my close friends. I hope they can kind of understand.
I tell my friends, "please try not to take it personally if I don't answer the phone. I will call you back, I just can't always do it right away." It seems like I am cold, or "playing games." My parents REALLY don't understand. They are in the 70s and they have a hard time believing I am even bipolar. UGH |
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Jun 24, 2016, 08:14 AM
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Life is unpredictable for most people. With bipolar or not.
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]Roses are red. Violets are blue.[ Look for the positive in the negative. PIRILON. If lemons fall from the sky, make lemonade. Unknown. Nothing stronger than habit. Victor Hugo. You are the slave of what you say, and the master of what you keep. Unknown. |
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Jun 25, 2016, 01:39 AM
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True. We just get a double-dose! |
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Jun 25, 2016, 01:46 AM
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I think I may have lost some friends due to impulse control issues. trying to support one of them by sharing info that ultimately hurt her and upset the group, now am afraid they will all turn on me. sigh
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| Anonymous37883, Anonymous59125
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Jun 25, 2016, 09:56 AM
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Yes! This is a problem for me too and people just don't understand it.
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