[Woolly Bugger]

Yesterday I went fishing for the better part of the day. I got home about 4 pm, looking forward to seeing my lovely wife and telling her about my exploits. But, she wasn't there, and I remembered that she had gone kayaking with some friends. So I waited, and waited, had a beer, and waited some more. Soon it was 8:00 pm, and I was very worried. I thought about calling the police but didn't. She finally arrived at 9:00 pm, happy as a lark. It seems she and one of her friends had decided to go out to dinner. Without telling me.

So, I became angry. I didn't yell or shout, but I calmly told her that I was angry. I asked her that, if I had been the one who had stayed out for hours without telling her, would she have been angry. She admitted that she would.

Anyway, I have almost never been angry at wife. At least not for years and years, since I started taking my meds. It made me uncomfortable, but, on the other hand, it all seemed justified, and I think I handled my emotions well. Perhaps it was normal; I don't know.

Is it a sign that I am getting better? Or possibly getting worse?

[wildflowerchild25]

I think it was a perfectly normal reaction. I would have been upset with my husband if he had done that. The fact that you handled it so well suggests you are getting better.

I think you handled it very well. Many people would get upset in this situation. You handled it with maturity and there ain't much more anyone can ask from you. Well done!

[Nammu]

Me, I think the emotion was normal and that you did a great job of handling the anger. She could have a least called you and let you know she was eating out.

[hopeless2015]

Sounds like you handled it just right to me, you let her know how you felt and didn't yell etc., and I think that was a normal reaction

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[st0psign]

sounds like a reasonable response to the situation to me. I think that's a good thing

[pirilin]

Your reaction was fine. What is peculiar is your wife not having a cell phone with her.
My wife has everybody on GPS. No need to call.

[Woolly Bugger]

Originally Posted by pirilin

Your reaction was fine. What is peculiar is your wife not having a cell phone with her.
My wife has everybody on GPS. No need to call.

You are very observant, as usual. The truth is that my wife had the misfortune of flipping her kayak while she had her iPhone in her pocket. The result was a soaking wet wife and an inoperable cell phone. She still could have used her friend's phone to call me. And yet, for some inexplicable reason, she chose not to. While I was at home thinking she was dead at the bottom of the sea, she was happily noshing on pizza and beer with her girlfriend.

[violetgreen]

I think you were pretty smooth about it. I can forget to call when I'm delayed, but I expect my husband to keep me updated. Oh well. Well done. Felt your feelings and acted reasonably.

[Woolly Bugger]

Originally Posted by violetgreen

I think you were pretty smooth about it. I can forget to call when I'm delayed, but I expect my husband to keep me updated. Oh well. Well done. Felt your feelings and acted reasonably.

The interesting thing is that I never get mad, but this time I did. It felt strange, but somehow refreshing. Like I was alive again. Perhaps it had something to do with giving up on Latuda the week before.

Originally Posted by Woolly Bugger

Yesterday I went fishing for the better part of the day. I got home about 4 pm, looking forward to seeing my lovely wife and telling her about my exploits. But, she wasn't there, and I remembered that she had gone kayaking with some friends. So I waited, and waited, had a beer, and waited some more. Soon it was 8:00 pm, and I was very worried. I thought about calling the police but didn't. She finally arrived at 9:00 pm, happy as a lark. It seems she and one of her friends had decided to go out to dinner. Without telling me.

So, I became angry. I didn't yell or shout, but I calmly told her that I was angry. I asked her that, if I had been the one who had stayed out for hours without telling her, would she have been angry. She admitted that she would.

Anyway, I have almost never been angry at wife. At least not for years and years, since I started taking my meds. It made me uncomfortable, but, on the other hand, it all seemed justified, and I think I handled my emotions well. Perhaps it was normal; I don't know.

Is it a sign that I am getting better? Or possibly getting worse?

I don't know. Anger is not an unhealthy emotion as long as someone isn't abused or raged on. I'd chalk it up to healthy communication.