[wiretwister]

well there is no doubt about it ... my younger son (almost 18) is his father's child ... I can see the beginning of the tortured self anger ... the lashing out ... no physical destruction yet ... he can not be satisfied with anything ... every disappointment is his fault ... every normal human short coming is of course in his mind as a failure ...

he is starting later than I did but he is starting ... I only hope this passes and he grows out of this ... I just worry he is begining that bp path ... I am thinking of taking him to my last T , the one I really liked , she is young and very good , with a kindness most have not had ... but I am worried about his reaction and the stigma if it is found out .... those his age can be very cruel ...
also would it just confirm in his mind that he really is a failure ... so I wait ... I try to be there for him ... but I know no one could help me , of course no one tried either ...

he has been the perfect son up till now ... but I see him changing day by day ... do you think it would be ok if I went to T with him ... or would it be the straw that drives him away or more into himself ... he is no danger to anyone but his self ,his happiness and self image ... and it so hurts me to see him be so self abasting ... for now I intend no action ... but color me worried ...

[Wander]

That must be tough to watch. Can he see it? Might be more open to therapy if he can.

[Victoria'smom]

I would ask him if he wants you to go with him or not but that he is going. Find a T that can diagnose too. I know my son feels better with a male T.