Is this a trigger for a depressive episode??

MissCathryn · Dec 10, 2016 at 01:50 PM

I live with someone who is almost always condendscending, mean, irritable, talks down to everyone, lazy, feels entitled, etc

LAst weekend, it was unusually bad. Nothing I did was right, everything was wrong, we had the cable shut off and I had to do a million things to get it back on for my kids, messy house, laziness everywhere. (I know this isn;t a healthy living situation, but it is all I have for now).

I have been sinking lower and lower into a bad depressive episode...it all started last SUnday.

I am "late onset BPII", diagnosed and started having symptoms at 44.

I didn't know that anything could trigger an episode. I thought they just came and went?

It hit me that this all started last weekend.

Any advice???

Thank you

JustJace2u · Dec 10, 2016 at 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by NeatFreakmom

I live with someone who is almost always condendscending, mean, irritable, talks down to everyone, lazy, feels entitled, etc

LAst weekend, it was unusually bad. Nothing I did was right, everything was wrong, we had the cable shut off and I had to do a million things to get it back on for my kids, messy house, laziness everywhere. (I know this isn;t a healthy living situation, but it is all I have for now).

I have been sinking lower and lower into a bad depressive episode...it all started last SUnday.

I am "late onset BPII", diagnosed and started having symptoms at 44.

I didn't know that anything could trigger an episode. I thought they just came and went?

It hit me that this all started last weekend.

Any advice???

Thank you

I too am a late onset BP2 (I'll be 43 in March), I was just diagnosed in May. There isn't a lot of advice I can give, but I know for myself at least just about anything can set me off on an episode, depending on my mood at any given moment. Some things tend to set me off more than others, such as idiots on the road, my biological father and my parents even. My therapist says that for some people it takes some time for them to realize what exactly triggers them. From what you're saying, it sounds like this may be a situation that is sending you into an episode. Have you talked to either your pdoc or t about this?

Moose72 · Dec 10, 2016 at 02:15 PM

I am sorry you're living like this. I had a similar situation for 10 whole years! (Although I'm bp 1 I still have my triggers and get depressed). The one thing that helped was getting my own place. I know I know. I thought I'd never do it either. But the planets lined up with section 8 and here I am. I hope you feel better. One thing that helped me was getting out as much as possible- a coffee shop with a friend for example. Listen to your favorite music. Have you taken DBT? They do a section called distress tolerance which was very helpful to me. I used to call the psych ER all the time (or go in). My med record is sobering to read. I hope you find peace! Not just this month but always. You deserve it!!

Ocean Swimmer · Dec 10, 2016 at 02:25 PM

I've been dealing with BP for over 35 years.
The things I've learned about myself is when things change for the worst or I feel myself spiraling out of control, I get to my Pdoc asap.
This usually means a medication change.
Sometimes a new round of intense therapy.
The worst case for me is letting symptoms control till I must be hospitalized. I hate that.
More than once I've lost the ability of coherent speech.
Your case may be milder than what I experience.
But I have 3 guidelines 1-make sure to sleep every night
Eat is #2 3- tell someone-don't isolate.

MissCathryn · Dec 11, 2016 at 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Moose72

I am sorry you're living like this. I had a similar situation for 10 whole years! (Although I'm bp 1 I still have my triggers and get depressed). The one thing that helped was getting my own place. I know I know. I thought I'd never do it either. But the planets lined up with section 8 and here I am. I hope you feel better. One thing that helped me was getting out as much as possible- a coffee shop with a friend for example. Listen to your favorite music. Have you taken DBT? They do a section called distress tolerance which was very helpful to me. I used to call the psych ER all the time (or go in). My med record is sobering to read. I hope you find peace! Not just this month but always. You deserve it!!

Hi Moose..thank you! I was on my own last year, and when my major depressive episode started and lasted 6 months, I had to come back to this situation. Assuming I can continue stable, I plan to move hopefully in the spring

MissCathryn · Dec 11, 2016 at 07:19 PM

Ocean--Thank you. Change in meds might be needed. I had a great night last night, and good day today until this afternoon, then it all went to crap. I think I am rapid cycling. This is a sucky way to live. Thank God we all have each other to lean on...people that aren't sick can't understanf

MissCathryn · Dec 11, 2016 at 07:21 PM

Hi Jace!! I am glad I am not the only one with late onset. It is literally like learning how to live all over again. How to deal with the highs and lows, triggers, things that help, etc. I am too old for this crap!!!!!!!

I did email my pdoc (she is wonderful) and I am sure she will respond tomorrow. I think I may be rapid cycling now...last night, and most of the day today, I felt pretty darn good. Today about 4:00, it all went to crap. Ughhhhh

Do you rapid cycle?

JustJace2u · Dec 11, 2016 at 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by NeatFreakmom

Hi Jace!! I am glad I am not the only one with late onset. It is literally like learning how to live all over again. How to deal with the highs and lows, triggers, things that help, etc. I am too old for this crap!!!!!!!

I did email my pdoc (she is wonderful) and I am sure she will respond tomorrow. I think I may be rapid cycling now...last night, and most of the day today, I felt pretty darn good. Today about 4:00, it all went to crap. Ughhhhh

Do you rapid cycle?

I was apparently rapid cycling sometime late summer/early fall. I still feel like I'm learning everything. Like you said, it's like learning to live a whole new life again. I still sometimes deny what's happened (mostly because my mom doesn't want to believe it), but at the same time I have to learn to accept it if I want to feel any sense of 'normalcy'. I've struggled with depression since at least my late teens and now this

I hope you hear from your pdoc soon.

Melmo · Dec 11, 2016 at 09:55 PM

I used to work with a girl who would talk to me like I was stupid. Or maybe it was my anxiety and thinking she hated me and thought I was an idiot. But I hated working with her. And when I did have to work with her I would get anxious, depressed and angry.
I def am triggered into depression by certain things. For example the other night my cell phone got disconnected and I went into a pretty bad depression because I felt hopeless for not being able to pay my bills.

emgreen · Dec 11, 2016 at 10:07 PM

For me, depression is sometimes just situational. I don't always blame my down days/weeks as a product of this disorder. I do have extremely deep & long-lasting depressions that can be treated with meds, but blaming situational issues on BP is a cop-out for me.

Shazerac · Dec 13, 2016 at 03:13 PM

The situation you're in sounds a bit toxic. It could make a person who does not have MI to be depressed. I hope you can talk to your T or pdoc about this. {hugs}

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MissCathryn Member Member Since Feb 2016 Location: Pittsburgh Posts: 197 8 55 hugs given	Dec 11, 2016 at 07:19 PM #6 Ocean--Thank you. Change in meds might be needed. I had a great night last night, and good day today until this afternoon, then it all went to crap. I think I am rapid cycling. This is a sucky way to live. Thank God we all have each other to lean on...people that aren't sick can't understanf
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emgreen Wise Elder Member Since Aug 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 9,645 (SuperPoster!) 11 937 hugs given	Dec 11, 2016 at 10:07 PM #10 For me, depression is sometimes just situational. I don't always blame my down days/weeks as a product of this disorder. I do have extremely deep & long-lasting depressions that can be treated with meds, but blaming situational issues on BP is a cop-out for me.
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