Does anyone else get quite upset by extreme, accusative rudeness? This guy called me from a local choir because I asked for a refund. He said, "This is DOCTOR so and so, artistic director for the ...choir." Who cares if he's a doctor? Like any other professional musician, he could say he's the artistic director. DOCTOR is self aggrandizing, don't you think? I had found out that the choir was going to be singing from the balcony in the back of the auditorium, and the only thing the audience would see for about 2+ hours is the soloist! I wrote that I thought this was deceptive, that I wanted to see the choir, and did not come to see the soloist on stage the whole time. Something like that, is what I wrote. So this guy on the phone was very hostile, and has ordered me never to come "to another one of our concerts." All I said in my email was the it was deceptive to not allow the audience to see the choir. Poor guy -- he said I was disrespectful. I said I didn't want to argue, but it was disrespectful for the choir to be in the balcony.

I was amazed. NO other venue has ever treated me this way. They ASK for feedback, thank me for it, and say, for instance, if I didn't like a play, that they are sorry it didn't work for me, but that they hope will come to another production. I have also told one theatre company that their stage is too hard to see. That one's stage is very, very long and narrow. If you sit at one end, you can't see the action. If you sit in the middle, you have to turn your head back and forth constantly. I told them that, too. No aggression from them, either.

This "doctor" is prickly as all get out. Maybe he feels superior because he is a doctor and an artistic director. And I am just a lowly audience member (paying!!) who doesn't like something he's doing. (Since he is the artistic director, I feel sure it’s HIS decision to put the choir in the balcony! Nobody better disagree with HIM.)

So anyway I'm stewing, up and down today. I'm slowing down in my rage, but rudeness is a BIG trigger for me, esp. if I'm being being blamed for something I did not do. I've been stable for 17 days. This is Day 18,and I don't like spoiling my record!!

Is rudeness a trigger for you? If so, how do you handle it? I will not snap back and lower myself to such a person's level, by the way. I used to do that, but I now consider it immature and equally rude.

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Does anyone else get quite upset by extreme, accusative rudeness? This guy called me from a local choir because I asked for a refund. He said, "This is DOCTOR so and so, artistic director for the ...choir." Who cares if he's a doctor? Like any other professional musician, he could say he's the artistic director. DOCTOR is self aggrandizing, don't you think? I had found out that the choir was going to be singing from the balcony in the back of the auditorium, and the only thing the audience would see for about 2+ hours is the soloist! I wrote that I thought this was deceptive, that I wanted to see the choir, and did not come to see the soloist on stage the whole time. Something like that, is what I wrote. So this guy on the phone was very hostile, and has ordered me never to come "to another one of our concerts." All I said in my email was the it was deceptive to not allow the audience to see the choir. Poor guy -- he said I was disrespectful. I said I didn't want to argue, but it was disrespectful for the choir to be in the balcony.

I was amazed. NO other venue has ever treated me this way. They ASK for feedback, thank me for it, and say, for instance, if I didn't like a play, that they are sorry it didn't work for me, but that they hope will come to another production. I have also told one theatre company that their stage is too hard to see. That one's stage is very, very long and narrow. If you sit at one end, you can't see the action. If you sit in the middle, you have to turn your head back and forth constantly. I told them that, too. No aggression from them, either.

This "doctor" is prickly as all get out. Maybe he feels superior because he is a doctor and an artistic director. And I am just a lowly audience member (paying!!) who doesn't like something he's doing. (Since he is the artistic director, I feel sure it’s HIS decision to put the choir in the balcony! Nobody better disagree with HIM.)

So anyway I'm stewing, up and down today. I'm slowing down in my rage, but rudeness is a BIG trigger for me, esp. if I'm being being blamed for something I did not do. I've been stable for 17 days. This is Day 18,and I don't like spoiling my record!!

Is rudeness a trigger for you? If so, how do you handle it? I will not snap back and lower myself to such a person's level, by the way. I used to do that, but I now consider it immature and equally rude.

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Bell it sounds like you're irritable. Do you have anything that can calm you down?