[Moose72]

What are we- 15? I tried to text him this morning and it bounced back with a message saying I was blocked. I told him about my weekend with my friend. He had told me to have fun on Friday. Now here it is Tuesday and I'm blocked? WTH? I feel bad. In the pit of my stomach bad. This is a long relationship- since 2005- and to just drop it like that?? The anxiety is terrible lately. Should I call pdoc??

[Alokin]

Ugh, I hate to hear this, no closure what so ever. If you need to talk it out I would call.

Originally Posted by Moose72

What are we- 15? I tried to text him this morning and it bounced back with a message saying I was blocked. I told him about my weekend with my friend. He had told me to have fun on Friday. Now here it is Tuesday and I'm blocked? WTH? I feel bad. In the pit of my stomach bad. This is a long relationship- since 2005- and to just drop it like that?? The anxiety is terrible lately. Should I call pdoc??

Hi Moose, I'm sorry that this has happened. It sounds frustrating, to say the least. However, it is their right to block you and I'm not sure how your pdoc fits into this at all?

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by Alokin

Ugh, I hate to hear this, no closure what so ever. If you need to talk it out I would call.

I didn't do anything to upset him except go on a date. He and I have never really dated so I figured he'd be ok with it and in fact he said to have fun.

[jacky8807]

what kind of "have fun" did he say. like a genuine have fun or a yeah have fun sarcastic?
If you are really close I would drive over to his house.

these are normal life situations that come up .Although they cause a lot of pain (as they would anyone ) intervention from our pdoc isn't always necessary. we have to learn coping skills.
sorry you are going through this

[Alokin]

That is strange indeed. I guess he was not ok with it. Yikes!

Originally Posted by Moose72

I didn't do anything to upset him except go on a date. He and I have never really dated so I figured he'd be ok with it and in fact he said to have fun.

[bioChE]

Why would you call your psychiatrist? This is a relationship issue.

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by bioChE

Why would you call your psychiatrist? This is a relationship issue.

Because- I feel really anxious

Originally Posted by Moose72

Because- I feel really anxious

I think if people contacted their psychiatrists whenever they felt really anxious, then psychiatrists would just be bombarded 24/7 and wouldn't be able to handle it.

It is a frustrating issue to be sure, but from the perspective of your psychiatrist it is definitely not worth contacting them over. A therapist, I could understand. But even then, it is better to use coping mechanisms yourself to get through this. I don't mean to be harsh or minimize this relationship issue, but I think contacting a psychiatrist because of this is not necessary or helpful.

Do you have an agreement with your pdoc that you can call? And is that agreement also for non-drug-related emergencies? Or do you think part of the anxiety is caused by your meds (if I recall correctly you were recently on 7,5 mg of Zyprexa, now your signature says 5 mg, so I think you're tapering off)

I guess it all depends on what agreement about calling you have with your pdoc.

Do you have his email address? Emailing is a little less "intrusive" than calling and still gets your message across.

[Sunflower123]

Do you have any other means with which to talk to your friend?

[scatterbrained04]

I'm sorry that happened. Something very similar happened to me a few years ago. I had a six year friendship then he just up and quit responding then changed his number. No explanation. My last boyfriend also just up and ignored me after a 2 month relationship. He never actually broke up with me. No explanation. It seriously sucks. I wouldn't consider this a call pdoc worthy event, but I can certainly empathize.

[TishaBuv]

Is this the friend that you got in the hot tub with and didn't want to have anything romantic with?

If it is, I'd say that is why he blocked you. He doesn't want to be just a friend and he's hurt and jealous.

I agree, blocking is really immature. The only two people I ever had to block were harassing me with texts and nasty name calling (more immature than the blocking act)

[Moose72]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Is this the friend that you got in the hot tub with and didn't want to have anything romantic with?

If it is, I'd say that is why he blocked you. He doesn't want to be just a friend and he's hurt and jealous.

I agree, blocking is really immature. The only two people I ever had to block were harassing me with texts and nasty name calling (more immature than the blocking act)

No this is someone else. But I think the fact that he said "have a good time" then turned around and did this speaks volumes.

[IntentOnHealing]

Ouch. I'm really sorry. My best friend did this to me in October. Bam! I'm still a bit slammed by it.

Hugs!

I've been in this situation as well. It hurts so much. I hope you feel better.

[TishaBuv]

I'm sorry it happened and you have no idea why. No closure. I have had to learn to cope with that myself.

Really, so immature of an adult to do. To me, blocking is only something to be done if that person is harassing and won't stop when asked.

It says a lot about an adult who just blocks at a provocation they never even express to the person blocked. You don't need friends like that.

Is it possible to block someone sort of accidently? (I am not smartphone proficient so I don't actually know.) I mean, I've accidently deleted people. I've called the wrong people. I've texted the wrong people. etc., etc. Usually happens because I'm not paying close attention and I hit the wrong button. I usually notice it when I do it, but not always. I guess what I'm saying, is there a possibility he didn't purposely block you? If you have an email address or other way to contact him, you might just lightheartedly contact him and say, "Hey, do you realize you blocked my number? Hope I didn't do something to upset you" and wait for a response.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Moose72

What are we- 15? I tried to text him this morning and it bounced back with a message saying I was blocked. I told him about my weekend with my friend. He had told me to have fun on Friday. Now here it is Tuesday and I'm blocked? WTH? I feel bad. In the pit of my stomach bad. This is a long relationship- since 2005- and to just drop it like that?? The anxiety is terrible lately. Should I call pdoc??

That's not cool at all and I'm sorry he did this

[lilypup]

I like lolagrace's idea.

[xRavenx]

Even if he was hurt, he shouldn't have blocked you, in my opinion. It shows bad communication skills on his part and a lack of maturity, in my honest opinion, since you did have a meaningful relationship with him, even if it was an "open" one.

I've had an open kind of dating relationship (and friendship) with this one guy who is keeping me in the dark. I texted him asking how he is doing, and he has not answered me. I have no clue what is going on: whether he is just busy or no longer wants to speak with me. He might just need space based on his crazy life, but it sucks, because the least he can do is explain his feelings. It really hurts. Even though my situation might vary a little, I totally know that feeling and empathize with you greatly and relate to aspects. It's hurtful to be ghosted.

Sometimes when people are mad, hurt, or going through something, they are simply not ready to talk. I think email is a good idea. However, I can't help but have a feeling he might unblock you when he works through some of these feelings of hurt, and he will be in touch, but it could take time. This is what happens often, although of course I do not know him or can tell for sure. Please hang in there, please don't be hard on yourself. You deserve happiness. Take care of yourself during this difficult time.

[Quarter life]

This in my opinion is a classic situation where one simply must back off and 'Let It Alone'.

We often fail to appreciate that others are sometimes going through their own issues...we can't pretend to know what is going through others minds. If your friend blocking you was an oversight?... then they will rectify it in good time...If not?...then there are almost 7Billion other warm bodies on the planet.

Try not to take it personally..this is part of life.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Since you feel very strongly about it, try to contact him some other way and hash it out. I don't think it's a pdoc thing though although I know some traumas can make you unstable. Good luck.

[TishaBuv]

I don't think it's possible to accidentally block.

Maybe you are too much for this person? How would that sit with you? Do you think a PDOC could help with that? Always remember, it might be them and not you. If it's you, you need to decide if you want to apologize or let them get on with their lives and you get on with doing your thing. Good luck.