[CherryGlazer]

When I know that I'll never be in the same place again (or atleast not for a while or in the same context), i just feel this weird and profound sense of loss. No idea why it makes me so sad, like.

Every time somewhere I go to eat closes down (even if i've only been a few times), and even the classes and lectures that I go to, when they end (even if i don't like them).

[bioChE]

It's interesting that you feel loss in such a situation. Whenever I'm in a place I know I will never be again, I try to pay closer attention than I would otherwise. I like to see, feel, hear, smell, etc. those things that are unique to that place and time. I try to store good memories for a record, and maybe I'll take a photo or two....or sixteen.

[Travelinglady]

I am sad the local K-Mart just closed, so I think I do sometimes.

[pirilin]

We are creatures of habit. A shame the only sure thing in life is change. I hear you.

[imaginethat]

I get sad when I think of certain restaurants I really enjoy closing.

[BeyondtheRainbow]

Yes, but it's because I hate change. I even got sad when I found out that the mobile home I lived in while in grad school had been sold and moved somewhere else. I liked thinking of my cozy little home as it was when I left it 15 years before.

[leejosepho]

Same here, and especially with certain jobs where I had perks and liberties beyond the paycheck and usual benefits.

[BipolaRNurse]

I'll always miss my big house on the hill. I made the mistake of going back to see it a few months after my husband and I left, and the new people had ripped out every single flowering plant I had grown and nurtured for years. My gorgeous Hot Chocolate roses were gone, the hydrangeas which turned all kinds of colors in the summer were gone...even my geraniums were gone. It broke my heart, and I will never stop by there again.

I have 2 things to say on this

1 is, I am convinced I am addicted to walt disney world in florida.

I've never been their, but I know all the rides, I know what the parades called, and I know the names of the themed areas too.

second thing is that if I leave a place, I always get the feeling that it's going to crumble and be destroyed.

like: the place can't run without me, so it's going to have to close

or something like that

it's always been the way

[CherryGlazer]

Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow

Yes, but it's because I hate change. I even got sad when I found out that the mobile home I lived in while in grad school had been sold and moved somewhere else. I liked thinking of my cozy little home as it was when I left it 15 years before.

omg this is so me. I think I know why now, I guess I hate change alot too!

[BeyondtheRainbow]

I still hate that my therapist re-arranged his office. It's been over a year. He moved a bookcase that I used to stare at rather than look at him. I know why he re-arranged, knew in advance he would be doing it (because he knew it would bother me), know that he and his wife spent a long time trying different options on a weekend before settling on this one, etc. And I still hate it. Heck, I hated it when he re-arranged the books on the shelf once, something we were able to laugh at but which was true. I really, really like things to stay the same.

[RainyDay107]

I don't.

I think it's because I "never look back." I'm not nostalgic, at all. I think it's due to disassociative amnesia (I have several years of no memory recall whatsoever) and CPTSD. I'm "keeping-going."

I do not rely on the anything to "remain," really. I'm not pessimistic, but loss has been a repeating pattern in my life. (Currently, it's my terminally ill stepfather whom I'm sole caretaker of). I don't become attached to places for that reason.

I DO like certain types of places like libraries and the beach (white-sand beaches, any locale is fine.).

[RainyDay107]

Originally Posted by CherryGlazer

When I know that I'll never be in the same place again (or atleast not for a while or in the same context), i just feel this weird and profound sense of loss. No idea why it makes me so sad, like.

Every time somewhere I go to eat closes down (even if i've only been a few times), and even the classes and lectures that I go to, when they end (even if i don't like them).

Is there a momento you can keep of places, i.e., a matchbook with a favorite restaurant's name or a takeout menu? A bookmark from a special bookstore? Just an idea.

Before I had bipolar disorder l, I traveled extensively and was fortunate to visit many places throughout the world. I wasn't big into tourist souvenirs, but I always bought a scenic postcard to keep as a momento. I also would keep some international currency. I like the different look and size of the coins. I like the paper texture, colors and pictures of the bills. I never look at these items but I like them.