What is wrong with people?

This post may be triggering to some.

One of my husband's Army Sargent's wife has bipolar disorder and (Trigger) she committed suicide two days ago. This makes me so sad for her and for him. This could happen to me or any of us here. I hate that it's a part of our reality. That this happens to us at a higher rate than most. I wish that someone could have saved her from her mind. What I'm sickened by is the people who comment on her husband's Facebook page, blaming him. Saying awful things to him, telling him that he's the reason. Why would anyone tell someone that? I don't understand. I can't imagine what he is going through, losing his wife to mental illness and then being blamed for it. No one deserves that kind of treatment. All I can think of is how that could be me and I would not want anyone blaming my husband. This whole thing just makes me want to do more people like us. There should be more education and awareness. I just don't know how I could help. Heck I haven't even told my family about my own mental illness. I just want people to better understand the battle we face everyday and that no one is to blame for the tragedy that sometimes take us away.

There's still a stigma around suicide and mental illness in general. I hate that morons are posting ugly things on his social media. My hope is that one of these days mental illness and those we lose to it will be as acceptable as diabetes, MS or any other 'accepted' disease. I'm sorry about his wife and if that triggered you. I hope you are doing ok. Best wishes.

It's all tragic!

Most of it, if not all, is a misunderstanding.
People tend to think other people drive people to suicide. They don't understand how many people suffer within, without external cause.
Since they don't understand her illness, they blame him. It's not about "blame."

I hope, someday soon, I'll have the courage to share openly and will help to educate those around me. (Interestingly, my pdoc thinks it's best I do not openly share. The stigma is real.) It's a tough call.

It's a sad story you're sharing.


WC

It's a tragedy and in my experience, people are ALWAYS looking for someone to blame in all tragedy circumstances. I can't believe they are openly blaming him. I would have thought in this situation the blame people felt towards him would have been something they'd keep to themselves as their own suspicions rather than blatantly accuse him. How very sad for him as I'm sure he's already blaming himself in some way. The people who are left behind often have a lot of hindsight is 20/20 issues to battle and don't need additional accusations.

how horrible. i think part of the problem is the way society is going in general. i think its called "micro-aggression..." people are far, far less civil, far more openly mean-spirited, than was once the case. I think its worse on social media, for obvious reasons.

i dont know the person or the situation. sounds like there's a lot of pain and now and lot of hardcore nastiness. this horrible cruelty that people dish out on each other, more and more...that seems to be becoming the New Normal. I shudder to think where society will be in 10, 20 years, especially if the economy doesn't improve.

Sorry about this situation.