[lunaticfringe]

Hey all.

Some of you might remember me. Hope everyone is hanging in there alright.

This time of year is so hard for me for a lot of reasons. It becomes a lot more obvious to me that I have a serious problem during this time.

Anyway, there's been a new development with my illness lately. I'm on SSDI and have been for years and my husband works. I used to get all of the errands and grocery shopping done while he was at work, plus household stuff when I could.

Lately I just feel like I can't do anything anymore. I have no appetite so I have no energy to clean or do any laundry usually. I've started to feel, when I do leave the house alone, kind of confused and scared behind the wheel...I feel unsafe and like I shouldn't be out alone. I hate feeling incapable of everyday tasks. My husband works so hard to support us and I just feel like such a burden...Can anyone relate?

[99fairies]

I totally understand. My husband does everything for me when I`m ill. Hope you feel better soon.

[GoldenSnitch]

I hope that you’re feeling better soon. Don’t be too hard on yourself and just do what you can. Lately I just haven’t been up to housework or groceries and I have no spouse to help me so my apartment is a mess. But when I can’t do it, I can’t do it. It will get done when I’m feeling better. Big hugs

It sounds like you’re having a bout of depression and anxiety. Have you checked in with your doc?

I can’t stand it when I swing down. I get depression and anxiety at the same time, and I find it very hard to handle

[Wild Coyote]

I can relate to a low level of daily functioning. I have to rely on my husband a lot. I am out on disability, which means I cannot do many of these tasks, especially on a regular basis. I never feel 100% okay with this; yet, it's real and I am forced to accept it. I am often testing it, hoping I can do more.

Sounds like you may have too much anxiety happening all at once, Please talk with your pdoc.

Wishing you Peace.

WC

[Sunflower123]

I’m sorry you are having such a tough time. It’s hard to accept the things you can’t do and to see that changing. I wanted to offer my support and send big hugs. I think seeing or talking with your pdoc is a good idea.

[raspberrytorte]

Yeah. I have trouble. I can't drive at all right now. I'm terrified to drive. My husband does everything I feel. I can't even take care of my daughter right now so she's at the babysitters all of the time (unless she's at school). I feel like I'm worthless, like my family doesn't even need me since all I do is clean the apartment. I want to get back to my old self, but it's so hard.

Hugs. I hope you start feeling better soon.

[liveforsummer]

I work part time but feel incredible guilt I’m not working full time and contributing more financially. I think full time would destroy me though. My husband work hard and has very long hours. I wish I could help more.

[Gabyunbound]

I know how you feel. I get paralyzed (in my case because of anxiety) and I just don't do household chores, go through mail, or even leave the house. Everything causes too much anxiety. And I too don't like public spaces or to drive when I'm like this.

I try to tell myself that I'm being brave just getting through the day and that when I can get things done, I will. I admit, though, that, for me, the best medicine is to get some things done (i.e. one a week, or a day, if you don't work) because then I feel better about myself and it becomes easier (if only slightly) to do it the next time.

It's very important not get down on yourself. Whatever reason that's keeping you from doing these things is very real and presents a very real problem. But you can overcome it. It may just take time. It may take time and a PRN. Therapy may help. But you can do it. Eventually. Meanwhile, give yourself a break, I mean that literally and figuratively. Take good care...

[WildcatVet]

Boy, can I relate! I can't seem to get over the anxiety of driving or going out alone...although I do pretty well when I actually do...white knuckles on the wheel and deep breathing the whole time.
I get a pretty hefty disability pymt so I don't feel so much a financial burden...but I just can't seem to get things done around the house...or so it seems. Maybe, like me, you're doing more than you're taking credit for?