Am I being mean?

My sister has been a... well... b_tch lately toward everyone, especially me. She feels entitled. Everything has to be her way and she "deserves" everything she wants. And it's her birthday today and she wants to go out to an expensive restaurant that has items that have lots of calories. It's like... pure fat. And while I'm not overweight, I have high cholesterol (familial hypocholesterolemia) and don't want to make things worse. I also prefer not to eat fatty things in general.

Instead of deciding to go, I decided to lie by saying I'm "sick"... I also didn't get her any gifts because I'm sick of her b_tchy behavior.

I remember about 2 weeks ago when I told my mom I wanted to go to an Indian restaurant to eat dinner together. My sister FLIPPED OUT. "OH MY GOD. ARE YOU F_CKING SERIOUS???? IT'S MY BIRTHDAY THAT DAY!!!!!" She basically started throwing a hissy fit. I said, "Chill. We'd be going 1 week before your birthday. Calm down." Then she pretended like nothing happened. "Oh, I was just kidding."

Am I being too harsh? Be honest. She's so triggering sometimes.

It's up to you, But it sounds like a very toxic relationship. I would say get rid of her, but she is your sister so that's hard, Sorry you're having family issues. I have them too ...sucks

Ouch. This quite sucks. It is totally self-centered and mom ought to nip this in the bud. Speaking of which, just how does your mother react to such behaviour? Does she say anything or encourage this by way of staying quiet? Does she have many friends?

How old is she? Does she just need to grow up.

Thanks guys

She's 20 as of today.

My mom lets her behavior happen. She gives her what she wants. So I guess you can say that, in a way, she does encourage the behavior.

My dad, on the other hand, is a bit sick of my sister like I am. She really is a brat sometimes.

My sister doesn't really talk much to me anyways, so it wouldn't be the end of the world if I got rid of her. She only seems to talk to me when she wants something.

I don’t think you’re mean. My baby sister is a bit of a brat. I’m getting really sick of it because she’s 40. She’s also untreated bipolar so that makes thing even weirder. I pick and chose when I interact with her based on my own needs and desires at the time.

Relationships with siblings can be very trying.

I find I do better if/when I don't expect siblings to "change" and also realize my relationships with them may have some limitations. I do have an open mind, incase someone does grow and wants a better relationship with me.

I used to get disappointed by expecting too much from siblings, while they were still going through their "sibling rivalry" stuff. Rivalry issues really came to the surface even more once H and I invited my mom to live with us! Wow! We were shunned for about 7 years. Lol. Insanity. We could have used some assistance. My mother accepting our help never meant her feelings had changed for each of them/all of us.

I hope your sister matures and you can have a healthy relationship with her someday. As parents age, relationships with siblings can become more important sometimes.

Do whatever is best for you.


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I was the bratty sibling in our family. I was still treated like a brat when I went home to see my dying mother. I have nothing to do with my brother. Once the estate was settled he dropped off the face of the earth for all I know. He said he was going to mooch off my parents until they died, and then asked to move in with me. Uh-uh!

The only relative I kept in contact with is my dad's sister, and even then I don't say much to her.

I wouldn't put up with your sister. I don't think it's mean; she may need an epiphany to wake up.

I have a sister who's 71 and acts like an entitled, spoiled brat. She has made some incredibly bad decisions in her life and the chickens are coming home to roost. This is, of course, everyone else's fault. Yes, she's suffered in her life...so have I, so have most people. I don't know where she gets the idea that the world owes her something because she's been through a lot. I feel sorry for her because she just lost her son and got herself evicted from an assisted living facility in the same month. But I just can't handle her problems and my own too. She is very triggering and I have a lot of difficulty being around her. I love her but it's much safer to love her from a distance.

Not harsh at all. Harsh would be telling her to shut up and socking her.

Oh 20 ???? Still in the " I deserve everything and it be my way stage " Ugh !!!!!
Some people just cant be a grown up...

I would just really really try to stay away as much as you can , I know easier said than done

Im lucky I had a brother and not a sister . I cant handle nor participate in Drama

You’re not being too harsh. I have a 20yr old daughter and I wouldn’t tolerate your sister’s behaviour from her.

You mean not.