[ginger13]

I absolutely hate people asking me how I am or saying that I look great.
1. I'm not going to tell the truth to "how are you?" because A. no one understands, and B. no one really cares. I will lie, almost every time. Honestly, if I say 'I'm good', I can say that because my physical health is 'good'. My mental health is a crap shoot, most of the time.
2. I know I don't look great (usually get those remarks when I'm running around in pjs and hair is messy). Do people say this because they are trying to convince themselves or me? Or just using it as a filler?

UUUUGGGGGHHHHH.

Lol
They say you look great because they mean it.

I'm the same.. I feel "jinxed" if someone complements the way I look.

It happened to me a week ago. The lady at the pharmacy said I looked good and had a great color.

Coincidentally I went "loopy" that weekend, as if I was blaming her for my misery..ocd? Idk.

But my mother assured me that my thoughts weren't right and I should just say thank you.

My father agreed.

[pirilin]

Ready made comments. With good intention.
If you say you're bad, people change the subject.
Nobody will help you. And if it's about money, worse.

"You're looking great". I told to an ex-brother in law, after 15 years that we didn't see each other. Expecting reciprocity.
Apparently I look awful. He could have been kinder. He just looked and looked.

Meantime, he weighted more than 400 lbs. And I told him 'You're looking great!!!"
He could never stand up. Just lay in a super wide special chair.
He died at 59, two month later. We were the same age.
I may look awful, but I'm still alive and kicking at 68, and no end in site.