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I want to join a meetup and/or support group, but my anxiety is extremely high. I'm worried about how people will judge me, and I'm afraid I won't fit in because I'm too nervous to talk or get involved.. I don't know how to get over it, because I would absolutely looooove to join some of these social groups where they watch movies together, do physical activities, etc.. I just always push people away when I'm in an episode, or when I'm psychotic. Any ideas on what I could do?
DBSA would be so cool to join, except this one b*** who attends the meeting. I want nothing to do with her. She's treated me like trash in the past and she is truly an awful person. She has mutual friends with me on FB and I see some of her disgustingly hateful posts, which means she probably still treats people like trash. Also, her hatred has nothing to do with depression or bipolar in my opinion. (IDK if she even has bipolar or depression.) She herself is trash and I don't want to be near her. She probably goes to NAMI, too, for all I know. I don't see the point in her going to support groups if she's the kind of person who treats people like trash. |
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I’m sorry that awful person is in the DBSA support group. I don’t know a way around that right off. Good luck with meet ups and support groups. They (meet ups) have been helpful to me. |
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Issues with people at meetings are concerns. I've been to DBSA meetings many times. During some periods they were great, and sometimes there was a person that triggered me too much. Perhaps I even annoyed someone at some point. People do come and go. Maybe you could ask the main leader to let you know if that woman has been absent for a while. Or, does that DBSA meeting break up into two groups after the main announcements? Mine was often so well attended that they split up. If they do, you can always go to the split up group that she's not in. I've never checked out Meetups, but I've seen that they do exist in my area. |
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Same with me. I absolutely hate meeting new people too. I was dragged around to AA meetings during one psych hospitalization. Considering I don't drink alcohol, have never drunk more than 1 glass of wine with a host at dinner maybe 5 times in my life, it was pretty pointless. And I have never done illegal drugs at all, don't smoke either.
There is a depression/bipolar group that meets at a church nearby in the evening, not sure if it is weekly, biweekly, monthly and moderated by a licensed therapist. I want try this group, and I don't; I'm scared. I have even quit going to my book club group. Every group I try - mom's groups, PTO, etc. I just feel so disconnected, like it has no point for me. I can't connect to other people. __________________ Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD Seroquel, Cymbalta, , propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, omeperazole I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. --Robert Frost |
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__________________ Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD Seroquel, Cymbalta, , propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, omeperazole I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. --Robert Frost |
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I go through this often, too, blue.
My social fears are largely related to self-esteem. Once I get there, I have a good time with people. It's getting me there that is the obstacle. I think it's courageous of you to share and to start this thread. I hope you can find some gatherings you can enjoy! I am absolutely sure you will add a lot to the group! WC __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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Groups make me very anxious too..
I’m sorry about that person ((((( blue ))))) __________________ |
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I am having that exact problem right now. Unfortunately for me i am an addict and used to go to AA meetings all the time. Then i had a breakdown got treatment in the hospital and i have yet to return to a meeting. One I am ashamed of relapsing but also my anxiety is so high I shake. Sending some group love to you. We will make it there on our own time and I bet we will be so proud of ourselves for going! Much love
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Just show up. They won't eat you. And maybe it will be of mutual benefit. GO FER IT!!!.
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AA friends will most likely not judge you. If you find AA helpful, I hope you get back to meetings when you are ready. I happen to think everyone can profit greatly by working the AA program, regardless of whether or not they are an addict. Much Love to You! WC __________________ May we each fully claim the courage to live from our hearts, to allow Love, Faith and Hope to enLighten our paths. |
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__________________ Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD Seroquel, Cymbalta, , propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, omeperazole I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a wood, and I - I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. --Robert Frost |
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