[99fairies]

My family is on Social Assistance and have been for 7 years. My husband stays home to help me with the kids and everyday life. So we are always broke.
He just got offered a weeks worth of work and he would make a lot of money. He would be gone for 7 days straight. Leaving everything up to me. Is it too soon? Can I do this? What if he leaves and I realize I just don't have it in me, then what? He can't just come back.
What do you think?

[UpDownAround]

I like your current status - "pretty damn happy" (even though your mood is aggravated) - I think that bodes well for you. Why don't you give him a day off to see how you do?

[Wild Coyote]

Do you have anyone available to assist you if you need it while he is away?

It's impossible for us to tell if you are ready for your H being away or not.
You and your H know your situation best.

Best wishes in whatever you decide.

WC

Like WC, there is no way for me to know when/if you're ready to handle more responsibilities on your own, but I bet you likely can handle more than you think.

I don't have kids. It's just my hubby, pet, and me. My husband does work full-time, so I'm used to being home alone with my pet during the week days. But around six months ago my husband had to go to Europe for two weeks for business. I was home totally alone with my bird boy. I did have some people I could visit and that could visit me during that period. I asked for the visits, for support. Can you arrange this? I also created an itinerary of things to do to ensure I wasn't just hiding in bed all day.

I don't know how old your kids are. Are they very little (infant to 5 years old)? If not, they could and should be a support to you and each other almost as much as you being a support to them. It could be an opportunity to ask them to "step up" temporarily and be that support. "Support your mother when your dad is away. I really need you to!" Or at least I'd hope so. I never had kids, but believe at 5 years old I "stepped up" on occasion. Though I was 5 in the mid 1970s. My siblings were 10.5 and 12.5 at that time. Perhaps kids are not the same now, but there is no reason why they couldn't be. My mother didn't have a mental illness, but she had bad epilepsy. I helped her avoid near seizures many times as a kid. It was important. I knew it then.

When my hubby was away in Europe for two weeks, we regularly checked in with each other through Viber or other video type communications.

[~Christina]

I agree ... try a day to see how it goes.

Unfortunately we all Med money to manage life.

I have faith in you to at least give it a try !!

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((( hugs ))))))))))

[raspberrytorte]

I personally wouldn't be okay, but I'm in a rough patch right now. I agree with the others who recommended you try a day and see how it goes.

[99fairies]

He's working 10 hrs away. So I can't really have a trial run for a day. Once he's gone, he's gone. No coming back for 7 days no matter how I'm coping.

[~Christina]

I mean can you try a day before he were to leave?? Just have him gone all day.

Just a thought

Hugs

Hmmm. What about the idea Wild Coyote and BirdDancer had? Do you have anyone you could call on to help support you? It *would* be really nice to have the cash boost if you can make it work.

I understand your fear. My ex-H had to go (many hours) away to work for 9 months(!) (it was supposed to be 3, but either way...). I was in a very rough place when he had to take off. My son was 13 at the time and the only support I had was a weekly T session -- that I hung onto for dear life as you can imagine(!) I was very nervous also, so I understand.