[cashart10]

My kids are having a catostrophic fight. My son threw a Barbie at my daughter and made her eye bleed. Now they are having a screaming match and it’s incomprehensible how overwhelming this is right now. How unable to work a solution for this I am. And, it’s just me and them. Can I cry? I can’t listen to them anymore. I don’t know what to do.

[Victoria'smom]

Do they have separate rooms. I would send them to their rooms or about 15 minutes to cool down.

[cashart10]

They are currently in their own rooms, screaming from down the hall.

[Victoria'smom]

Have them stay in there until they quiet down.

[cashart10]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Have them stay in there until they quiet down.

Thank you so much for your response. My brain couldn’t process a normal solution. They have apologized and settled down now. I called my mom about it and she said she will come over if I need her.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm glad they stopped and your mom is coming over.

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by cashart10

Thank you so much for your response. My brain couldn’t process a normal solution. They have apologized and settled down now. I called my mom about it and she said she will come over if I need her.

It sounds like you handled it really well in the end. It's not easy raising kids especially if they are prone to fight. Hopefully you all can enjoy the rest of the day.

[~Christina]

I think this is why I only have one child. Never could get pregnant again. Looking back I’m grateful.

I don’t think I could have managed 2 very well

My daughter is grown now and also has Bipolar I .. she was a very easy child actually , she loved books..... if she acted up I’d say “ do you want to give me your book ? “ she always straightened up.

I don’t think I could handle screaming kids , nope no way...

I think you handled it well, the war is over for now.

[sarahsweets]

I have three kids, 22,18 and 15. The 22 year old and 18 year old used to fight like this, and the 18 year old used to fight with the 15 year old too. Sometimes you have to tolerate the yelling and screaming because children can not regulate their emotions the way adults can and their only way of dealing with them is yelling and crying. As long as they are safe you should take the time out. Go outside and sit in your car if you need quiet and practice some deep breathing. My kids have hurt each other sorta "by accident" in the sense that they would have a meltdown and throw something in anger and it has happened to hurt their sibling. My son got stitches from his sister once, and the sister got a bad bump on her head from the brother. Both girls have broken each other's stuff. We are a very close family and husband and I have modeled appropriate behavior and love for them and they still had meltdowns. I promise you as long as there are still good times where they get along and you are able to model love and compassion, when they get older they will not hate each other.

[liveforsummer]

I hope today was a good day

[cashart10]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

I have three kids, 22,18 and 15. The 22 year old and 18 year old used to fight like this, and the 18 year old used to fight with the 15 year old too. Sometimes you have to tolerate the yelling and screaming because children can not regulate their emotions the way adults can and their only way of dealing with them is yelling and crying. As long as they are safe you should take the time out. Go outside and sit in your car if you need quiet and practice some deep breathing. My kids have hurt each other sorta "by accident" in the sense that they would have a meltdown and throw something in anger and it has happened to hurt their sibling. My son got stitches from his sister once, and the sister got a bad bump on her head from the brother. Both girls have broken each other's stuff. We are a very close family and husband and I have modeled appropriate behavior and love for them and they still had meltdowns. I promise you as long as there are still good times where they get along and you are able to model love and compassion, when they get older they will not hate each other.

Thank you so much! Normally, I could handle it fine but I was just so out of my mind that it was just so overwhelming for me. I have been having a better time slowly though.

[sub-dural]

I'm not sure if this would be helpful for you, but when I am home during the day I wear ear plugs constantly. I live in the city on a very busy street and across from a grocery store. Constant honking, car alarms, sirens, people yelling at each other, etc.

It really takes everything down a notch.

[cashart10]

Originally Posted by sub-dural

I'm not sure if this would be helpful for you, but when I am home during the day I wear ear plugs constantly. I live in the city on a very busy street and across from a grocery store. Constant honking, car alarms, sirens, people yelling at each other, etc.

It really takes everything down a notch.

Great suggestion. Thank you!