Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Glad to read your dad is getting help with withdrawal.
I know you have been very concerned about him for a long time now. Hopefully, he'll get started on the types of help that will most benefit him.

Sorry he is being sent further away for dual diagnosis treatment.

Are you feeling hopeful about his potential recovery?

WC

Hi WC. I'm actually kind of nervous right now. I called my brother who is still at the hospital with my dad and my brother said he couldn't talk at that time. I got a feeling that my dad is being difficult. I then called my sister's house and briefly talked to my brother-in-law. He also thinks Dad may be trying to weasle out of rehab. I think my brother is arguing with him.

My brother-in-law now says the doctors are thinking about a rehab for Dad in King of Prussia, PA. That's even closer to Philly and further west than the first place we thought they suggested. If he goes there, it will be a pain in the butt for us to visit him. Over an hour drive for both me and my siblings, at best (more with traffic). There's a perfectly good rehab for the elderly just 20 mins easy drive from both me and my siblings (right in between where they live and I live in New Jersey) but that's not considered because Dad HAD to go to the Pennsylvania hospital. I'll admit that the hospital in Dad's county in New Jersey sucks, but he could've likely been referred to the rehab we prefer from there. Both my youngest nephew and I have been to that psych hospital (which is also a rehab) we prefer.

Note to all: The choice of general hospitals (ERs) can determine which psych hospital you are referred to. Especially if it's an out of state general hospital.

There's even a psych hospital/rehab within a 10 minute WALK from my house (35 mins drive from my siblings' houses) though the one that's a 20 bucolic drive away has a special section for the elderly (psych/addiction/dual dx). The one within walking distance of me does not. Anyway, I will just be happy if Dad doesn't weasle out of this. He can go to a rehab in Alaska or Guam for all I care! If he doesn't get himself help, he's going to die.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by Franann

New here, not sure how forums and posting work here

Hello and a warm welcome to PC.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by BirdDancer

Hi WC. I'm actually kind of nervous right now. I called my brother who is still at the hospital with my dad and my brother said he couldn't talk at that time. I got a feeling that my dad is being difficult. I then called my sister's house and briefly talked to my brother-in-law. He also thinks Dad may be trying to weasle out of rehab. I think my brother is arguing with him.

My brother-in-law now says the doctors are thinking about a rehab for Dad in King of Prussia, PA. That's even closer to Philly and further west than the first place we thought they suggested. If he goes there, it will be a pain in the butt for us to visit him. Over an hour drive for both me and my siblings, at best (more with traffic). There's a perfectly good rehab for the elderly just 20 mins easy drive from both me and my siblings (right in between where they live and I live in New Jersey) but that's not considered because Dad HAD to go to the Pennsylvania hospital. I'll admit that the hospital in Dad's county in New Jersey sucks, but he could've likely been referred to the rehab we prefer from there. Both my youngest nephew and I have been to that psych hospital (which is also a rehab) we prefer.

Note to all: The choice of general hospitals (ERs) can determine which psych hospital you are referred to. Especially if it's an out of state general hospital.

There's even a psych hospital/rehab within a 10 minute WALK from my house (35 mins drive from my siblings' houses) though the one that's a 20 bucolic drive away has a special section for the elderly (psych/addiction/dual dx). The one within walking distance of me does not. Anyway, I will just be happy if Dad doesn't weasle out of this. He can go to a rehab in Alaska or Guam for all I care! If he doesn't get himself help, he's going to die.

I hope this gets sorted out.
Thinking of you and yours.

WC

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by Franann

New here, not sure how forums and posting work here

Hi Franann!

Welcome to PC and to the Bipolar Forum.

You have posted just fine!

I hope you will find the information and the support you may be seeking.
Please do jump in and make yourself at home.
I hope to hear more from you.


WC

[yellow_fleurs]

Originally Posted by downandlonely

Being social is also very important for me. Lately, I have had a bad cold and am unable to go out. It's making me stir crazy.

I hope you feel better soon and can get out and be social!

[yellow_fleurs]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Paint night sounds like fun! We have more and more "Paint and Sip" events in this area now. I have not participated, but I am hearing that people enjoy the gatherings.

Socialization saves me, too, when my mind becomes obsessive.

I hope you have a good week.


WC

Thank you, I hope you have a good week, too!

[Nammu]

Originally Posted by Franann

New here, not sure how forums and posting work here

to PC and the bipolar forum

I'm almost on the verge of tears. My brother made such a huge mistake taking my dad to the hospital in Pennsylvania. They were there, as is usual, for hours then they actually got my dad to agree to rehab for alcohol. Then my brother and sister took him to that place north west of Philly and they were waiting so long that my dad couldn't take it anymore so wanted to go home. Plus Dad did not find it to be a good match of places for him. If only they had gone to ANY hospital in New Jersey Dad could have been sent to the nicer places near us. The place my sister and I have discussed for months is a much better match for dad.

The bad thing is that the place we want him in requires hospital release for elderly, so Dad may have to go to a general hospital again, but in NJ, not PA, before being referred to the rehab/psych hospital we want that's in NJ.

I remember talking to my psychiatrist months back about getting Dad into rehab for alcohol. My psychiatrist, who used to be a psych/rehab psychiatrist at a NJ psych hospital, said to take anything that is offered when Dad is willing. Well, this hassle makes Dad less willing!

I'm sure the place we want for him takes Medicare, but Dad says that if it doesn't he may be willing to pay out of his pocket. I hope this is an indication that Dad still has willingness. The money is not so much of an issue as the lack of hassle and comfort of the place.

My Dad is home sleeping. Exhausted and unwell. Maybe we can start all over again tomorrow.

[Wild Coyote]

I am so very sorry, BirdDancer.

I remember getting extremely frustrated with the system(s) and with my brother (an alcoholic) while trying to get him a bed (also dual dx) at the same time he was willing to give rehab a try. It took so many attempts and lots of letdowns.

I am thinking of you and yours.
Love and Prayers,

WC

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

I am sorry you have a cold and are isolated. I also go stir crazy when I am too ill to get out.

Please take good care. Hopefully you will be able to get out soon.


WC

(((((((( Wild Coyote )))))))

[downandlonely]

@yellow_fleurs Thank you! I am feeling better and should be able to go back to work tomorrow.

[Fuzzybear]

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Scooter9]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

CONGRATULATIONS!!!




I have been having great difficulty with motivation, too.


I have also been feeling very alone, despite having people around me. I try hard to live in the Present Moment. My life is very difficult right now, which feels very isolating.




WC

Thanks WC.

Nice to see you back in the forum. Missed you for a while.

I guess all we can do is take things one day at a time.

[Wander]

Still IP. Still 'crazy'. Crying a lot. Feel trapped in my room but they wont let me out. Sill scared but less so. I guess the AP's are working. I am desperate to leave. Like a rat in a cage. Maybe if I keep my cool for a couple of days they will let me go. They need empty bed anyway. I was admitted voluntarily so I should be able to go when I want. Apparently I was a Sui...mess last night. I don't recall . See my pdoc soo and see what her says.

Edit - typo's

[TheSeaCat]

Hello everyone! I hope everyone had a good Sunday. My day was great I went to Sunday School and Church. I got to meet M's darling older sister who reminds me so much of his mother. I guess you could say the apple didn't fall that far from the tree; unlike me who fell so far away from the parent tree. His family is just wonderful caring people who just raidiate love and kidness.

Sunday School and Church went well as usual; his mother is still stunned that I keep coming back without it being expected of me. I told her I grew up in church; lost my way and found my way back. Besides I like their church more than my old church.

After church we all went out to eat and I got to know his sister that is just so sweet and her kids are wonderful as well; and this is coming from a women who typically only likes her nieces, but they were great children and they really love their uncle M. He's so good with children and they honestly adore him. They also really like me a lot and they both are really sweet.

After lunch we all went back to the parents house and all caught up while letting lunch settle; besides we all had plans of attending the Church's Super Bowl Social where there was of course tons of food; excited children; angry teenagers. You know how those things can go; but I enjoyed myself.

I also have school work to deal with so it's been a long day for me; but then again all of my days are long. Such is the life working full time and dealing with school. I also got my offical President's List letter in the mail. That just makes the feeling more real in my mind.

Also the weather was super wonderful today like mid 60's so I got to break out the cute maxi dress complete with my favorite pair of wedges that are most certainly the most comfortable heel I own. I seriously cannot wait for Spring so I can just wear dresses all the time and those shoes. Don't get me wrong I love my work heels but sometimes my feet get very tired of it by the end of the day but those wedges are a total all day shoe.

Hugs to everyone

[Lefty Seven]

Squandered the entire afternoon with Microsoft tech support analysts in Chennai chasing a bug in Word which has been jeopardizing my relationships with my Korean clients.

Though the issue went unresolved, it was well-documented, enabling me to procure a full refund for the entire Office 2019 suite through an Amazon customer relations representative in the Philippines and keep all the the software to boot, pun intended.

Amazon never gives refunds on software, and outsourced tech analysts and service reps never tell you where they're located. Plus, I have an older version of Word running on an older machine to keep my Koreans in check. Dammit feels good to be a gangster.

[BeyondtheRainbow]

I'm wide awake again. I took a prn dose of gabapentin so hopefully that will kick in and I'll get to sleep.

I'll be so glad to see my therapist tomorrow. I kind of feel like I need to up to twice a week for a couple of weeks but this month has been expensive with hotel rooms for my trip to see my father, cat with infected paws and extremely expensive medicine, a surprise new battery for my car, etc. I guess I need to consider it at least.

You know that saying "two birds with one stone"? Well, two birds with one car today. They bounced off my windshield and went over the top of my car. Then the person behind me ran them over. Poor birdies. R.I.P. birds.

idk what the hell they were thinking. They saw me coming with my car! I swear they're like squirrels where they just jump out across the street without looking. Didn't mama bird teach you to look both ways before you cross the street?

Anyway, feeling pretty good today. Got excessive sleep, but I'm doing well. It's that time of month, though. ick. Came about 5 days late. I was hoping I'd miss it altogether, but nope.

I've have litirally felt void of emotion all day

feel so low that the word "low" doesn't cut it

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Thanks y’all for the hugs

I’m sending hugs back