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Anything specifically going on Fuzzy?
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I was feeling ''hopeless'' and ''not good enough'' due to the negative chatter in my head and wondered if others experience this (abusers also told me I am these things). I try to put Papa bear's (my husband's) needs first but still feel ''a failure'' (this is not new, I've been feeling it more lately though)
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I am really sorry you feel like this. I used to have a very negative voice that played in my head saying mean things to me. I think a combination of what people have said to me in the past and depression making me feel more worthless. I did not experience any sort of severe abuse, though. I think having positive mentors and relationships in recent years, plus a therapist who had a kind view of me slowly chipped away at that negative voice, but it still crops up sometimes.
Is anything making you feel like this more recently? Is there a reason you feel you need to put your husband's needs above yours, instead of something a bit more equal? Your needs are important, too. |
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A few things have been making me feel like this more recently. We don't have supportive family (and I have no siblings). He doesn't talk much to his siblings (he hasn't for a long time) and he is ok with that. He thinks I talk ''too much''... most other people have criticised me for being ''too quiet''. He gets stressed when he receives ''too much'' sensory input (talking etc) but likes the tv. I do not. So I'm ''alone'' in the evenings. It makes the negative chatter in my head worse sometimes. He thinks we interact a lot (I don't). Also he is practical and I am not (the abusers told me I am ''useless'' ) (I think I have a lot of difficulty staying focused on practical things and some other reasons...) I've been trying to find some distractions..... __________________ |
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I never thought I'd say this, but CBT is helping me a fair bit with negative and intrusive thoughts and judgments.
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I guess as far as ''support'' I could try a therapist although that too would stress Papa bear out (and it would stress me out too.....) But maybe I might find a therapist who listens, that would be nice
I think he might be high functioning Aspergers, he was labelled ''introverted'' when he was at school and I don't think his school was into labels.. unlike that place I went to. He isn't interested in talking to people, even on line, but his social skills are fine except in the evenings. I did not notice how ''quiet'' he was for a long time, (at least a few years) I was always labelled as ''quiet'' but now I'm not so much But I'd rather he said nothing than what the rest of the ''family'' say - judgments, talking about paint drying, scary ugly topics __________________ |
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I just posted in another thread about
GIGO GARBAGE in GARBAGE out It can be quite a powerful way of eliminating.... for a time..... bad memories that constantly replay.... at least it works for me sometimes. Sub optimal individuals who spout venom and/or ignorance in fact spout GARBAGE..... Which needs to go OUT I hope this helps someone else out there __________________ |
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I thought I was ...... (deleted) earlier on today (like losing the plot)
Just getting by... with my harsh muzzle ON And the abusive words still screaming at me how BAD I am. I wish they would stop. __________________ |
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I'm sorry you are experiencing these thoughts Fuzzy. My sister experienced such thoughts for most of her life, along with extreme anxiety. I don't know how she dealt with it, but I do know that she is now a much happier person. I hope you find a solution.
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