Depression and...

busymomof5 · Jan 13, 2021 at 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I was feeling ''hopeless'' and ''not good enough'' due to the negative chatter in my head and wondered if others experience this (abusers also told me I am these things). I try to put Papa bear's (my husband's) needs first but still feel ''a failure''

(this is not new, I've been feeling it more lately though)

I’m sorry Fuzzybear. When I feel depressed I also feel like failure and the chatter in my head doesn’t help. It does help me to examine the evidence of my failure to expand my thoughts. For example, I feel like a failure because my daughter got kicked out of nursing school and is living with a terrible boyfriend. Bad mom, right? Failure. Expand the narrative. My daughter came to me first about nursing school. She took my advice on what to do. She calls me every day. Last week she bought me lunch. She works full-time. There is some positive in my story. And if you can’t see the positive right now, it’s not your fault. People make choices for a lot of reasons.

You’re a good egg.

*Beth* · Jan 13, 2021 at 10:20 PM

What you've described, the evening routine, sounds painful. Your husband watching TV , leaving you "alone." Many years ago when my husband and I still lived together he used to watch sports on TV for hours, nearly every night. I felt abandoned and ignored. Being abandoned in such a way (or in any way) is so terribly hurtful.

I'm sorry, Fuzzy.

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Beth catches the flowers Member Since Jul 2019 Location: Downtown Vibes, California Posts: 15,701 (SuperPoster!) 4 23.7k hugs given	Jan 13, 2021 at 10:20 PM #22 What you've described, the evening routine, sounds painful. Your husband watching TV , leaving you "alone." Many years ago when my husband and I still lived together he used to watch sports on TV for hours, nearly every night. I felt abandoned and ignored. Being abandoned in such a way (or in any way) is so terribly hurtful. I'm sorry, Fuzzy. __________________
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