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I'm sorry about starting another thread
I've often heard about ''narcissists'' and how they sometimes ''discard'' people. I had a ''friend'' irl who has BPD, she recently discarded me When I needed support... and it was usually me supporting her, making her laugh and more.... she discarded me. Her last text to me said ''ok'' And she talked my ear off about her problems I was nothing but supportive to her No idea why .... idk if anyone else has ever experienced this? __________________ |
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So Sorry for what you're going through! Please Do not give up! i have never experienced this but regardless of the specific diagnosis it seems clear that she isn't respecting your feelings very much. i'd suggest to talk to her about this and make her understand that you don't appreciate this if that is true. i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Please do update us if possible if you want to. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Fuzzybear, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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That is so hurtful in so many ways; giving so much to someone and realizing it’s not been appreciated or returned. I wonder if it’s a relationship you want to pursue. It sounds like she may just be using you and incapable of giving back. Her needs are constant but she has no room for anyone else.
Has she ever been supportive and there for you? You’ve really helped her through some serious situations. It might be a good time to rethink whether she’s really a friend. Take care of yourself! __________________ Cymbalta 90mgs Lamictal 200 Gabapentin 800 mgs Baclofen 40 mgs Atenolol 100 mgs (familial tremors) Trazadone as needed for sleep Source Naturals Wellness Formula: I can't say enough about this supplement. For whatever reason, it keeps my depression at bay and I feel so much better when I take it. |
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When that happens with anyone and if she does it to you again. Call. The. Cops. Every time. Otherwise she knows she’s got you. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society. |
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In general I don't know what to say though. I can only vaguely recall once having a girlfriend who was like that. It was severe manipulation. __________________ >< |
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I am sorry that you are having to deal with her.
perhaps narcissistic????? runaway from her! bizi __________________ 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night, 4-5 peri-colace for chronic constipation multi vit,, vit c, at noon, tumeric, caffeine at noon PRN Remeron 15mg at night, zyprexa10mg under tongue, requip2mg. |
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A "friend" like that one is no friend to have in your life. I'm sorry, Fuzzy
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That's terrible. I'm sorry your friend didn't treat you well.
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I think if you're a good listener some people can latch on and take advantage of that, it sounds like she's taken far more than she's given and you're now evaluating this friendship. Sometimes asserting boundaries can help I think but other times it won't help. I think if she's truly narcissistic and doesn't want to address that then it's not likely to help.
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So many red flags with her for you, that should have clued you in as to drop her like a hot potato: -she NEVER reciprocated equally with emotional support -the friendship was lopsided/one-sided: you gave, she took -her emotional manipulation through her so-called suicide threats; she did that to keep you hooked emotionally as narcissists will do. You were her emotional supply. People like her are emotional vampires. Stay away from her. She will breadcrumb you to come back. Use what's called the "Grey Rock" method with her, should she text or email or call you again. Just don't respond. Ignore her. Consistently. Do not respond with a single word b/c when you do, that signals to her that you are still emotionally hooked/enmeshed with her friendship and will be available to her crazy toxic behavior. Not everyone who crosses our path deserves our friendship. Be more picky. You are a very caring person, Fuzzy. Don't be so quick to give your friendship to everyone so freely, without some boundaries in place first, to protect yourself and set limitations with the other person so they know what lines not to cross with you. |
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I had a coworker like that. I assume she had BPD but all she ever said at work was that she had addiction issues. But she’d text me in the middle of the night talking about how she was S. But I’d respond back and she’d never answer. Then the next day at work I’d ask if she was ok and she would smile and say “yeah I just had a moment.” She would never respond to my texts which were mostly work related. Then she texted and said that her mom died and just stopped showing up to work. Her mom did not die by the way. It was a lie. Her mom is all over her Facebook. I never told work what really happened because I didn’t feel like throwing her under the bus. I just stopped communicating with her because I don’t want to associate myself with those types of people. I’m still Facebook friends with her though. After I posted a new profile picture during the winter she sent me a PM saying I looked great and some other BS. I answered her and got no reply. Typical.
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Have you ever heard the saying “that friend you keep around for shits and giggles” ? that’s what she is. __________________ Ridin' with Biden |
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Egads she sounds like a guest on one of those smarmy daytime tv talk shows.
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