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Default May 23, 2022 at 03:52 AM
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How do you get over rejection because of “bad chemistry”. I felt it went good. What am I missing?

Have any of you tried this? How do you deal?

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Default May 23, 2022 at 04:24 AM
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I understand the disappointment in regards to job interviews or even just applications that don't result in one. Most all people have related.

Did the interviewer actually say there was "bad chemistry"? If so, then I'd think that's an unprofessional reason. Hearing that would eventually make me relieved I didn't get the job. If that was the reason, professionalism would require they say something else. Like maybe "not a good fit for the group, for X & Y reasons", but certainly not "chemistry", unless the job is for a chemist and that you're not quite qualified enough in the focus of chemistry for the job. Assuming it is a personality clash, it's sad to say that these are quite common. I experienced some, too. Know that there WILL BE an environment that you can thrive and fit in.

If there is anything you can learn from this, do, but keep looking for new opportunities. Interviews are ultimately sales pitches, not just for your base qualifications, but ability to fit the pace and requirements of the job in other ways, knowledge of the company/organization, and sadly also sometimes appeal to the interviewers as a social being. When I got my last job, one interviewer and I did not mesh at all, but when I was interviewed by her boss, I totally charmed him. That's how I got the position. However, I had to report to the woman I didn't mesh with. It turned out quite painful and I felt a bit abused by her. I was able to transfer within the company (thanks to that woman's boss), but before I knew I could I was ready to quit. People definitely don't want such pain and pressure. Feeling like you may have avoided that is for the best. That is if this was a personality conflict and I'm not misinterpreting this. No matter what, try not to let this hurt your feelings or pride. After all, you did get the interview. That was probably beating out many other applicants -- a validation of your qualifications and initial appeal.

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Default May 23, 2022 at 04:38 PM
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Sorry things did not work out.

If I get someone on the phone or in person after a "rejection" and ask them what I might do differently in the future that might help me be a better candidate. People often give candid answers and sometimes those help me improve and sometimes they make me feel better. @CANDC

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Default May 23, 2022 at 04:47 PM
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I agree that it might be worth your time to follow up to see if someone can give you feedback. It might be painful, but you will have more information. Rejection is so painful, though! Hang in there
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Default May 23, 2022 at 05:05 PM
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I'm sorry to hear you were rejected that sucks
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