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Thank you for joining in @Tart Cherry Jam. Your post is really interesting.
I don't think age has to do with sex drive, at least not in general. I'll be 60 next month and my sex drive is no different than it was in my younger years. Good for you, imo, for discussing sex toys! Go for it. I have never used any, but I am curious. Are you in SoCal or NorCal? (I'm up north.) __________________ |
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I think meds are the reason I am unable to have an orgasm.
When I was younger I was on SSRIs, but was also a young woman, so my natural estrogen levels must have been higher than they are now, when I am 40. I learned in college that women with high estrogen levels are highly fertile and their outward appearances (large breasts and hips) are indicators of that fertility and make them attractive to straight men. But it sucked to attract everyone and feel nothing in return. I also thought I was bisexual. I have only been with men, but never had much pleasure from it. I now think I am a lesbian. But have yet to experience sex with a woman. |
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I had relatively large breasts and relatively narrow hips and conceived very easily, as did my mom who had the lower body of Sophia Loren (tight waist and very wide hips) but smaller breasts–not small, but smaller. It is actually quite common to have one or the other body type and the body type as well as many other body types. And I knew women with boyish figures who conceived easily.
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I love how Californians seem to make a line at Sac and call it good. Bay Area, Sac, etc. is geographically central if you’re being honest. Granted the only thing north of Sac are hippies, rednecks and weed but it does exist. 🤣
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Yes, I'm central, but we are northern...so, I'm central vertically, northern horizontally Does that make sense? Sheesh, the only thing in Sac are hippies, rednecks, weed - and what used to be called Yuppies. I don't know what they're called now. My children, haha. You know Calif well, my friend. __________________ |
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Mendocino county, of course. I have never been there but it is on my todo list. And yes we know we are in reality central.
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Ohhh, go to Mendocino when you are able to. The town itself is darling and it's smack on the ocean. If you can, stay at Van Damme State Park and hike through Fern Canyon - magnificent! (Most likely, you'd need reservations quite a ways in advance.) The only downside is that if you get car sick bring Dramamine, ginger, wear a copper bracelet, anything that works. Even when I drive I get terribly motion sick from the tightly winding roads. __________________ |
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Thanks for the advice! I get car sick on winding roads, even if I drive (if I am a passenger, then forget about it, it is so bad).
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Yeah. Not pleasurable. In fact, I used to drive to the coast and up the coast a lot. 101 was the love of my life. But after so many years of it, I began to be just plain tired of getting car sick. I'd be driving and hanging over the wheel, praying not to puke in the car. By the time I'd get to the ocean I'd kind-of roll out of the car, stumble to the beach, and gulp in the fresh ocean air just to offset the nausea. Lie there in the sand and pray that I'd either throw up, not throw up, whatever, just that it would stop. And being a passenger? Oh, Lord help me. I did find "not very drowsy" Dramamine usually helpful - and it doesn't make me sleepy, I don't think. __________________ |
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But in my early 20s after having my first son I got the depo shot and ALL my sexuality went out the window. For months at a time. My poor ex. I gained like a 100 lbs. I got all the weight off (and more) after our second son. getting the mirena iud along with a script to the weight loss meds Phentermine saved my life and gave me sexual balance (for the most part). *but also mentioned this transformation led to my ultimate demise. Before, when I was married and undiagnosed and had my first manic episode following a life tragedy, I was in person acting on it and it ended up basically ruined my life. That was 4 years ago. Since then I’m divorced. … Recently I’ve been extremely triggered (hence why I’m reaching out to support groups). So In all honesty these manic episodes still happen but Now if it gets really really really bad I just go to a chatroom to release in an anonymous and detached way. Thanks for sharing your experience, I felt nervous with so many asexual comments and my experience has been so different. If you’re reading this and struggling as I am, try to stay strong. I know it’s hard |
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I had a high sex drive and would have issues because no partner cause I'm fat. I prayed for it to go away it has I'm much more selective now and not dating random guys. much happier. weed out guys just looking for sex too now.
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Hmm...where'd @Tart Cherry Jamgo?
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Then I got back, was depressed for several days, then flipped into hypomania (last Thursday, depressed in the morning to the point of not being able to get up from the bed, euthymic in the afternoon, hypomanic by evening). Hypomania lasted a couple of days and even Zyprexa did not provide enough sleep. It was for the first time in my life that even Zyprexa was powerful. I started thinking of adding Lithium since the presentation of my bipolar illness is becoming classic with ups and downs. My dr agreed and I have filled the script but I have not taken Lithium yet, remembering the side effects Lithium gave me when some years ago I was on it, and also remembering that it did not always help. Right now I am trying to go back to Latuda and Thorazine as I do not want to stay on Zyprexa. To the point of this thread: I switched to Vraylar which is known not to give sexual side effects a couple of weeks ago. Indeed thinking sexual thoughts started coming back to me but I also believe that it destabilized me. It is so difficult managing this mercurial illness. So difficult. Thank you for starting the thread and wondering how I have been. |
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I'm so glad you've checked in @Tart Cherry Jam. Great news that you like your son's GF, but oh, ouch...the agony of having to be cheery when you feel depressed.
I had a very similar situation in August. My son and dear DIL took my husband and I to lunch; we all had an absolutely lovely time. But I was having issues with my Gabapentin dose, wasn't feeling at all well (physically), but was determined to put on a happy face. (God forbid they should know I'm taking all these psych meds.) So, I pulled it off. But by the time I got home I was drained so badly that I felt terribly unwell and ended up (sorry) puking for hours. Yeah, this illness is a blast What is your next step with medication? __________________ |
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