Bipolar Check-in #75

Well I made a Facebook post about how people should not be judged or discriminated against for things including race, gender, and mental and physical illness. I said that someone had become cold towards me when they learned I had mental illness, and that I was told I should forgive them. I said **** that - it's not my job to understand and forgive her bigotry. It's up to her to overcome it and do better.


WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! I am so glad I stood up for myself.

Great. They’re setting off the big ones. I’m so anxious already

My heart is in my throat. My anxiety is sky high. I know what the noise is. I know I’m
Safe but I’m still
Reliving it

It took most of my days off, but my foot is nearly healed. Just in time to get back to work, but at least I'll be walking! I'll probably look into an insole when I head in to stave off any more foot problems.

So sorry. My sister-in-law has a dog who is terrified of fireworks and he just shakes and shakes even though they give him a tranquilizer from the vet. They are also bad for the environment. I just signed a petition a few weeks back to have a light show instead of fireworks for Canada Day. Apparently in Europe they have some kind of fireworks that don't make the noise. Hope you got through it okay.

I took my prn klonopin and went to sleep
Eventually

Samicat, I have never been against any particular race. To grow up in Western Europe and read about topics like how black people were treated in USA, made me feel sad and ashamed about how they (the black skinned) were treated. There were other population around, I felt for, as well.

When it comes to gender, I did walk in the 8th of March demonstrations years ago, because it was important to me to show that I didn't accept to be treated in a lesser good way then men because I was a woman.

Now I am sick and weak (have several physical disorders) and I am older with little energy. So I let the younger people protest for themselves and live well with that my time has passed.

Your question is not so easy to answer, as you perhaps think it is. Because it touches around what is most healthy for a person with some kind of mental illness. I think that the question has to be linked to the fact that we all are different. Some people will become worse of protesting all the time. For such I believe it would be wise to pick the cases they want to fight for and, for their own health's sake, learn to let other topics go and find more healthy ways to cope with them.

There are also values attached to your question. May be you and I have different values with regard to some topics. As far as I have understood it, you met this person in your writing group. To me it is very important that all the others in the group feel well. If there was one person in a group I participated in who overlooked me, I would have pretended that I didn't notice and been in a forgiving mood (inside myself). If the person would be so demonstrative in her behavior toward me that all the others noticed it, I would have said something. What would have happened next, would have depended on what answer I got. In an extreme case, I would have been very clear about that I am not someone to play with.

When it comes to my answer to you, I gave the answer I gave because I thought it could be one of many ways to overcome this situation for you, with the knowledge I had about the situation then. I took the time to care about you ... We forgive for our own sake, not because we want to be kind to the other. The premise for forgiveness is always that something wrong has been done.

There is evidence that forgiveness can help some people included people with bipolar disorder. (Robert D. Enright & Richard P. Fitzgibbons, Copyright 2000 by the American Psychological Association).

Since you asked if I would have given that link in other situations, I suppose that you didn't like it. I am sorry that you felt it that way, but hope that if others read it, that they probably can find some value in it for situations in their own futures. Forgiveness has to be of one's own choice, not as an automatic response without meaning.

May the rest of your day be good, Samicat!

We all participate here in the hope of getting and giving support. Sometimes it can happen that the support we give is not appreciated. So it is here and so it is in life in general. Now that I am aware of how you feel about forgiveness I will never take that topic up with you again. Thank you for letting me know!

This has been a good day for me! I jumped out of bed and did my morning ritual right away (physical exercises, repeating my tools, doing relaxation exercises). I have been out for a walk and I have been able to work for some time.

I hope that my tomorrow will continue at the same level.

You misunderstand me. I am not opposed to forgiveness and in fact I have forgiven her, but I still called out the situation (not her by name) on social media because in this day and age it is simply not acceptable to discriminate against someone on the basis of that person having a mental illness.

I’m still healing from my dental surgery but I am feeling better. When I first wake up, I’m in pain and have nausea. It was more extensive than first thought. Because I grind my teeth so hard in my sleep, I broke two teeth. One in my right lower side and one in my left upper side. Put that together with my biopsy on my tongue for possible cancer and I’m left nibbling stuff with my front teeth like a rabbit. It’s aggravating. The two teeth extracted will be replaced with implants.

I have made the decision to attend the family reunion. My sister talked me in to it. I think I’m making the right choice.

Mom and I got doughnuts and Arby’s and watched Macy’s fireworks spectacular from the comfort of our AC seating. It was phenomenal. Really enjoyed it.

Have not felt like floating much with my dental issues. I set a goal of Friday to get back to it.

I hope everyone has a peaceful day.

Damn it's hot.

On the news tonight they said yesterday was record breaking global heat temperature. The experts expect that the recorded will be broken again and again in the coming years.

Yesterday morning, Hubby and I went to the police station to be interviewed about the criminal complaint we submitted. It took over two hours. It was hot in the station, because like most Czech buildings, there was no AC. It was cooler outside.

In the afternoon, I had an angry exchange with my sister, who lives in the US. She is the executrix of my father's will. She has been keeping many related things secret from me, most likely at the urging of her abusive husband. For example, she apparently accepted an offer for my father's house, but failed to tell me. I found out myself when casually browsing the online listing. When I asked her about it she refused to answer, and responded with a boohooing angry rant. I am certain her husband is basically harassing her 24/7. She has admitted to that in the past. Either way, she is a 58 year old, so is ultimately responsible for her own behavior. A couple weeks back she threatened to relinquish the executrix role, due to stress. I told her she can, if she needs to. She didn't. Truly, I think having a family member be an executor/trix of a will is a horrible idea. Too much stress and conflict for many!

Had my hernia repair surgery yesterday, and I'm not trying to be a big baby or anything, but the pain is excruciating!

I’ve had that surgery. It gets easier. Take your pain meds regularly and that will help.

My sister fortunately has her husband at her back. He’s helping her with all the parts of being executrix . I think that makes all the difference in the world. I’m sorry your sister’s husband is such an ***. He could make this easier on her. I hope it all works out for the best.

Thinking of you and hoping things smooth out for you.

I hope the pain eases up for you.

I reached my goal of getting back to the pool a day early. I’ve enjoyed floating on this sunny day with Polynesian punch (non-alcoholic) in hand. It sure is heating up today. Clear skies and sunshine.

I’m debating about whether to go rafting or on the pontoon boat or simply sitting in the rocking chair during the reunion. I don’t want to push it so I think rafting is out. I’m heat intolerant so I’m taking lots of cooling aids.

Disability followed up with all that paperwork with a one page form asking for dates of treatment back to February 2021. Boy, did I have dates galore plus my hospitalization. If that doesn’t convince them, nothing will. We’ll see. I mailed it off today.

I hope everybody has a peaceful day.

Sorry to hear that you broke two teeth! It is good that you are feeling better after the surgery, though! May the family party do you good!