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Grand Magnate
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#81
You make excuses about every aspect of her relationships with you and her husband; I have to wonder what is so great about this woman? I see no positive aspects other than sex?
You have to ask yourself is what you're feeling lust or love? __________________ Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD Seroquel, Cymbalta, propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, lamotrigine, hydroxyzine, There's a crack in everything. That is how the light gets in. --Leonard Cohen |
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#82
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The most fulfilling part of our relationship is those times when we are laying close to each other having long conversations a few inches from each other, or sitting on the couch sharing chocolate and talking for hours. My theory has always been that sex is great, but there are 24 hours in a day. What about the other 23? We strongly feel that the other 23 will be pretty awesome as well. We've discussed our roles. The mundane, the ordinary. paying bills, cleaning, cooking, weekends, new jobs, retirement, handling episodes, boredom, the whole enchilada. We seem to be in complete agreement on 99% of life together. |
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She's using bipolar as an excuse. Is she stable right now? If she's stable right now I'm sorry, but we can't help you. At least, I can't help you. I don't know how to cure crippling fear of change and don't have advice regarding that. __________________ The darkest of nights is followed by the brightest of days. 😊 - anonymous The night belongs to you. 🌙- sleep token "I'm scared. I'm old. I want to go home!" 😁 - anonymous |
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#84
I just think it's disgusting someone would marry someone just for their money and then cheat behind their back because they're thirty years their senior and their d*ck doesn't work. I mean, how greedy do you have to be? And then to blame your affair and not wanting to change on your bipolar diagnosis?
😡 😡 😡 Just saying. I'm sorry. __________________ The darkest of nights is followed by the brightest of days. 😊 - anonymous The night belongs to you. 🌙- sleep token "I'm scared. I'm old. I want to go home!" 😁 - anonymous |
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She is stable on meds right now. I feel terrible that I can't help her overcome her fear. I guess this is something she has to do on her own. Sad face. |
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#86
You previously said she’s unable to handle day to day tasks independently and is fully dependent on others for basic day to day living. This is extreme case for a 50 year old woman regardless of her disorders.
What’s the chance that all of a sudden she’ll get a job and start contributing if she can’t even handle regular daily living. I think you need to prepare yourself to what is to come. You are approaching retirement age and you are taking on a dependent adult now whom you barely know. Of course that’s all a moot point as she’s married, but just hypothetical. But if she leaves, and moves in with you…You might have to work all into old age as you’ll have to support her now. |
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Genevieve is not totally dependent. Her particular version of bipolar makes it extremely difficult to deal with change. She needs a regular routine, shower, get pills ready, sleep 8-10 hours if possible. Go to work the next day and repeat. She is totally reliant on this routine. |
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#88
You want to build a relationship built on cheating, hurting another, and basically all round lack of integrity. That will be the foundation of your relationship. Basically her 80 year old husband will be the collateral damage to you getting what you want. Calling that a solid foundation would be a stretch. You need to get your nose out of their relationship.
Do either of you have friends/family whose opinions you value? They rightfully will be wondering if you guys are off your rockers. Do you have siblings, nieces or nephews? You mentioned your "beloved" has a son. Any of them would be right to be greatly concerned for both of your behaviors/actions. Does this woman love you? You'll never know, because what she desires most of all is security. And skipping out under cover of darkness on an 80 year old man??? No comment needed on that. It speaks for itself. This also has the potential to end up a father/daughter relationship. It is already pointing sharply in that direction. Once the shiny veneer of your love for each other wears off, what lies underneath that? Once you're aware of the collateral damage of her 80 year ex-husband, and she's aware of the lack of money? You need to let her get her own affairs in order, including ending her marriage honorably. Letting her know you will be there for her once she has closed that door in her life is very different than you trying to direct it. |
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Oh ok well if she works full time, then how can’t she handle daily tasks and why does she need a man to support her. You said she’s not even able to live alone. If she works full time with many responsibilities, there’s no need to live with man she doesn’t even like. It seems that the story changed somewhat.
Granddad? People who are afraid of change and rely on routine would never take on secret affairs and continue it for over a year. No way no how they’d partake on such things. Nope. They’d never take a risk. They’d be too terrified. This person is playing you. Or you are playing us? |
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