Planing for the future

$300 certainly is not enough for three grown people. A 100 bucks s month isn’t enough. Food bank? I think you’d qualify.

I think I got confused because you said your husband’s mental health won’t allow him to use the stove so I wondered how he cooks. Mind you, one can cook without stove, it’s just a little hard. I still think that you need some type of care team to help all three of you to figure out some type of food routine.

Do you have a walker or a cane to get around? With a Walker you might be able to move around. I have a tiny kitchen but I could squeeze Walker there if need to and hold on to it for balance

We've tried a cane it's to unstable and a walker I can't push/control with one hand. He can use the stove. He can't go to the store it's too overwhelming.

We do use food banks. They have really good ones with fresh vegetables and fruit that they grow on top of the hospitals.

Hi Victoria’smom, I’m sorry for your troubles. I’m curious about your lack of eligibility for meals on wheels. Since your husband is in his 60s, he should qualify, plus your mobility issues should qualify you as well even if you’re not 60. It may be something to double check? Good luck!
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Oh my bad I thought you said he can’t use STOVE. Sounds like he can’t use stores.

I think his dad is in his 60s, not him?

Yeah I’d say someone with such limited use of legs (cannot walk to the kitchen by herself or shower) and with use of only one arm unable to even hold a plate would qualify for quite a few things. It’s pretty extreme. I’d look into it too. Good idea

You have to be home bound here for meals on wheels here. T says to take the week off, contact my PCP (already did), get back on any medication, even if I have to call my unhelpful pdoc. Remember that most my stresses are out of my control.

I'm 41, husband is 42.

Thank you for the clarification divine1966.

Oh, I thought you all were older and home bound, my bad. That is quite a pickle.

So school is cancelled for me for the foreseeable future. My t wants me to reduce stress. She said it's going to take months to recover from everything going on. Meds are going to take a while. We talked about getting another service animal, when the time was right, and more tricks for reality checking without the dog.

I'm sorry @Victoria'smom I know you had your hopes set on this. Sounds like you need your meds fixed before anything else. Do you know when you move (speaking of stressful things....)?

We're still in the last phase of the drawing and the last phase of move in assistance. So hopefully we hear more Monday. Exterminator is coming in Monday too. They threatened the whole building with fines. So hopefully we get out of here soon. The soonest I can restart medicine is Wednesday.

That sucks about the exterminator and the meds. Are you going to have to start a totally different med?

I hope the moving assistance goes through quickly.


I don't understand, what are you drawing? Sorry. I'm tired and not thinking straight .

So how it works here is you get a voucher and find a private unit to rent. Then if you want an apartment complex you go on a list. Each apartment has its own list. Then when a low income place opens up they have a drawing. The top x people are invited to move their application forward. After they get all the applications in if you're still high enough on the list your put into phase two. Which is the verification, credit check and signing the lease.

I haven't kept any medication down for about a month. So I stopped even trying. So I will be on all new medicine tomorrow but with mail delivery it won't be here until Wednesday. My therapist is worried I have great insight that it'll fade as time goes on. She's impressed with all the systems I have set up to live a normal-ish life but it masks the severity apparently even medicated I'm servere. I don't want medicine I want to try keto but the way my t makes it sound I'm moments away from the hospital especially if I don't destress.

We're working on giving me the freedom to roam around the house when Athena passes. Instead of me hiding in the closet behind 2 locked doors when home alone. My whole routine revolves around the dog. From when I eat and sleep and take meds to being able to function alone. I haven't even mentioned how she stops me from self harming when home alone. I didn't want her to be even more concerned then she is. We talked about wether getting a replacement now would be better or waiting.

So next month I have to buy alarms for doors and windows but that won't help when the paranoia is high like deep pressure therapy does. Apparently being out of the closet while paranoid vs being able to use the house while paranoid isn't as large of a step as I think and the amount of paranoia I have staying home alone means my meds aren't working well enough. She doesn't know it's worse outside. She was surprised I'm so paranoid while on medication.

I think my eating disorder voice is back. I don't want meds I actually told h to watch me take them when they come. I don't know how to tell my therapist I don't want help without being locked up. I don't get along with my pdoc and I don't think she can truly help me.

I don't know how to just chill so which exasperate my symptoms. So that's not good. I can't listen to music, my earbuds got stolen, I'm to agitated color, I can only rest so much. I'm going to look into injectables again.

So once again a professional told us it's going to take us a lot longer to be healthy enough to work if ever but the PCA is a good idea.

So I have to work, I have no choice I need money for credit. I need credit to get a place. I need a place to survive.