Do you make excuses?

Ok, so I "know" I'm bipolar....ok....but what the heck. I still can't wrap my brain around the fact that I don't have full control over my emotions. I grew up having to explain my actions/reactions and making stuff up so I didn't get into trouble.
Logically, there has to be a reason for my feelings, right? For me there is not always a concrete reason and growing up people in the group homes and foster homes wouldn't believe me when I said that I didn't know what was wrong.I find myself making excuses for feeling angry or upset about something. Too many people just don't understand that sometimes feelings just happen with me.
It doesn't make me a bad person, but I can understand how my moods effect other people and the way they perceive me.

How do you deal with others and your own bipolar issues? Do you tend to make up excuses for your moods, actions or reactions?

I just want to know that I am not alone. It can be so hard sometimes.

BJ

I am not sure if everyone make excuses, I know I do. Not all the time only with certain people, the ones that I can explain it to until I am blue in the face and they just don't get it, it's not worth always getting into it, ya know. Jen

I kind of can relate. My boyfriend and I had a hard time for quite a while where I"d get upset and start crying and he'd ask what was wrong. All I could answer was "I don't know". This would make him angry because he figured I was using crying as a sort of emotional blackmail. FINALLY I explained to him that I really don't know why sometimes and its just a bunch of mixed up emotions or thoughts that I can't explain and that all I need is a hug and some time and I'll eventually give him a reason- or not. My thought processes can get SOOOO so jumbled that I sometimes wonder if I live on the same planet as everyone else. Like one of Saturn's moons- KINDA like Earth, but not really. lol

wow this place just keeps getting better for me as i'm going along on this treatment journey and i've barely just begun but long over due. i thought that i was the only one pretty much that was like this. i've felt that people think that i was crazy or that my hormones were just over wacked, but lately i've been more and more comfortable with all of this so i've been talking about it more to friends and family and trying not to care what people think of me. all i ask is that they try to understand and that it that it is not their fault. that i don't have motive or an explaination to all my thoughts and emotions and that i'm not trying to hurt anyone .i know that something is not right with me and that i'm not trying to hurt anyone. i found worst and really exhausting when i racked myself tring to make sense of it all for those who didn't care to let me be myself. so yes i do understand but every time you make a change remember that i gets and feels worse before it gets better, so i hope this helps and if not well at least you tried. good luck and thank you for the post and try not to let them make you feel like you're backed to the wall

Thanks you all!

I am just so glad to know that I am not alone with this. It can be super frustrating to try to explain and get the duh look or be told that there HAS to be a reason for the feeling.
It is really exhausting trying to make sense or explain, so I just won't try as hard! LOL

i remember when my parents would always ask what was wrong. half the time i didn't know. in my life there were always things wrong i guess. sibling rivalry, divorce, social awkwardness... easy to blame one of those even if it wasn't those. my parents knew i guess that it wasn't that but they didn't figure out what it was. in my late teens i was dx'd with depression and my parents could understand that (having it themselves,) but they still couldn't understand my unexplained mood swings. i think they, not understand, but accept it now.

That's the best approach. Having bipolar is exhausting enough without having to justify your actions to those around you. I was diagnosed about a year ago, and I've learnt to stop making excuses. Be open about the fact that you have bopolar - you soon learn who really cares about you - and as for the others, they're not worth it anyway.

Ive felt that way my entered life .Now that I know bipolar I dont give a %#@&#! what other people think any more they mad my life hell for too long .I have for given my self for all the bad feeling ,actions that other people pointed out about me For the most part I stay away from so call ~ normal~ people.