Confused about behavior.

I have dated someone for 14 months. About every 4 to 6 months she ends our relationship. After a short period of time we get back together and she tells me that she loves me, discusses getting married, sends emails that she misses me, etc... Several days before Christmas she again ended the relationship again saying that she did not want to resent my children at some point in the future or have them resent or hate her. She started the conversation on the night that she broke up by retelling a rumor about the business where she works closing. The situation is very confusing, because about 3 weeks prior to the break up she planned a surprise birthday party for me that was to occur at the beginning of January, (she told me about the party the night she broke up and gave me the left over invitations), there were marriage discussions, etc... Now as far as I know she has very little contact with anyone. She use to religiously open her shutters when she woke up in the morning. When I dropped off some of her items on her porch they were closed. A neighbor who is a friend to both of us told me that they remain closed. Is there anything I can do to help or will it be more helpful to her to not attempt any contact. She has a history of Bi Polar in her family and she has taken Klonopin since I have known her and I think she may have reduced the dosage recently. (I could be wrong on the medication). Any suggestions would be appreciated

I don't have any other advice than; talk to her. Sit down and talk to her about her behavior and find out what her troubles are.

The problem is that she has not chosen to reply to emails or return phone calls. I suppose I'm not presented with much of a choice but to wait for 3 or 4 weeks.

Bipolars often stop taking meds when they feel better&it doesn't seem like they need them because they feel OK. Is she sensitive about the holidays? Are you bipolar? I'd say try to talk, but don't force it or she'll fight you harder.