[Fuzzybear]

how much other people's posts trigger you?
I've never had any issues with a member here (that I can remember) but I've read their post a few times, and each time I get triggered...

Do you reply when a post triggers you? Or do you avoid that post? What sort of thoughts and feelings do you have?

Yes I have been triggered and yes I post on them I am after all BPD lol.

I have been angry I have been upset I have been hurt I have upset people I have hurt people ( if I do I try to go back and say sorry as I dont want to do that )

So in answer to your Q then yes I do reply and yes I have been triggered.

[opheliasorrow]

Hi Fuzzy. Yes I DO get triggered. I do answer them too. One time maybe I would jump in and maybe say something regrettable? That would lead to hurting that person and causing all sorts of trouble when my intention was never to hurt, defenses would run riot .... I think now I would go and calm down, think about things and reply if I was in a good place. I hope this helps K xxx

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

how much other people's posts trigger you?
I've never had any issues with a member here (that I can remember) but I've read their post a few times, and each time I get triggered...

Do you reply when a post triggers you? Or do you avoid that post? What sort of thoughts and feelings do you have?

I have been triggered quite a few times when reading posts.

I have responded offensively once (or maybe twice), but I'm often paranoid of my emotional posts being completely misunderstood. Halfway through my long, informative, and dramatically emotional posts, I end up deleting most of it. I may then respond kind of blankly, to avoid appearing angry & hurting others. Or I simply give up and don't reply at all.

Typically, I avoid responding when I am triggered. I'd hate to be viewed as a jerk. Good 'ol paranoia !

Shez

[billieJ]

Dear Fuzzybear ~ I do not have many of the issues that participants in this forum have [although I do feel thoroughly sorry for myself over the ones that I do have !], and that may be why others' posts do not seem to trigger me. There are some that I cannot respond to because I realize that I do not have the knowledge to make a helpful response, but I respond when I think I might have something to add. I am very much aware that those suffering such conditions as DID or SI might well be easily triggered, and I can have only respect for those who struggle through such triggerable conditions. I am sure that your feelings are shared by many, and our feelings are what they are. Thinking of you with Empathy and admiring your strength ! billieJ

[billieJ]

P. S. Fuzzybear ~ I should have added BPD to the above list. I know that this is a highly sensitive condition and one that is most, most difficult to bear. I am sure that others' posts do trigger those with this condition. Bless You and Again, I am Admiring Your Strength and Courage! billieJ

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

how much other people's posts trigger you?
I've never had any issues with a member here (that I can remember) but I've read their post a few times, and each time I get triggered...

Do you reply when a post triggers you? Or do you avoid that post? What sort of thoughts and feelings do you have?

You ask the best questions Fuzzy. Are you saying that you have never been triggered by a member but now you are?


Yes I have a few pet peeves about the manner in which some posters respond. I dislike it when people

Call themselves a diagnosis.

and more so when someone else calls others by a diagnosis /names .

we are all wonderful beautiful people with distinct personalites. I find the use of

"Im a drunk or your a drunk" Im an ADDEr or cutter Or a BP or a BPD or ditz or any derogatory name refering to self or a population as depersonalizing and harmful .

I was bullied day in and day out . labeled, called many names . I have zero tolerance for it.

I have particiated in the labeling in the past. It was to get back at someone who did it relentlesslessly in hopes they would get a good look in the mirorr.and hopefully stop. I stupped to thier level by doing it though.

I also dislike it when someone labels how a person is acting or feeling or thinking when responding in a post as if they are the authority on how that person is at any given time.

or says dont be so ( fill in any discriptive word) .any one who is depresed usually has a negative script running in the back ground and needs no further help with it..

Some triggeres are fine . If I feel sad for someone thats okay . I don't mind crying about thier situation. Or if it's happy I enjoy that trigger.

If its hurt and anger I'm feeling , I tend to want to "correct" especially if its to stand up for someone or a group I see as being victimized . I do not refer to them as a label when I do this .

I have made slips a few times.

I go by the you can call your self anything you like but don't let anyone else say the same .

I dislike it when others come on forums to try to fix or complain about someone elses mental illness.

I appreciate it when people are here just to fix themselves or help those who are struggling with the same problems.

Those are my triggers . And yes I will not go back and read some responses if I have gotten triggered. And others times I will respond . I work it through hopefully to face it and not let them get to me.

and I would not be surprised if I have done some of the above when trying to help someone else. Im always able to see it in another but not in myself. I tend to share alot .


Patricia

[naturalist1133]

Auroralso, I have to agree with you one hundred percent. I hate it when people refer to themselves by their diagnosis. People are so much more than this disorder they have written on a piece of paper. Labels people have given me have done so much to set me off course in my life. Thank you for posting.

[Abby]

I first read this post a few days ago and my first reaction was 'nope' but since that wasn't an overly helpful or understanding reply i didn't bother. BUT that was me living in my fantasy world again, i forget how easily triggered i am. I don't really get triggered into sadness but into anger (surprise, surprise). If i see feelings that reflect my own or a post that i don't 'get' i generally get angry, dunno why..just do. So yeh i will avoid that post in the future, in fact i can go as far as avoiding the entire sub-forum and even the entire psychcentral! But i guess it depends on what emotion is triggered as to whether a person would respond, personally for me it is likely to be revulsion to the extent that i want to slam down the lid of my laptop and walk away....i can find that little x close box pretty darn quickly! I avoid purely because i know it isn't helpful/nice to have someone lash out for no reason and i'm self aware enough to stop myself doing this. Plus for all my aggressive tendancies i do actually hate confrontation, i only pick fights that i know i can win (is that pathetic to admit to?).

Originally Posted by shezbut

but I'm often paranoid of my emotional posts being completely misunderstood. Halfway through my long, informative, and dramatically emotional posts, I end up deleting most of it. I may then respond kind of blankly, to avoid appearing angry & hurting others. Or I simply give up and don't reply at all.
Typically, I avoid responding when I am triggered. I'd hate to be viewed as a jerk. Good 'ol paranoia !

Shez

What Shezbut said pretty much sums me up, i think if there is any confliction between pure anger and paranoia, in the end paranoia will win out every time! As you may have noticed i don't really post/reply that often. Probably a good thing though because when i do it ends up being the longest post ever!! Jeez. sorry.

[lynn09]

Hi, (((((Fuzzy))))). I sometimes get triggered by people's posts - but not nearly as often as I thought I would when I first came to PC. I guess my years probably have a lot to do with it - been through so much - seen so much - it takes a lot to get to me anymore. Whenever I do get triggered though, I usually won't respond right away or at all if I don't think I will have anything constructive to say. I'm more likely to blunder it by triggering others with my replies - I tend to "think-speak" or "think-type" - I get curious - ask questions so that I can understand the particular person's perspective - or ask "can you" questions because I'm not certain how a person's particular condition affects them. I learn so much, though, from everyone who posts and replies - see little parts of me - reading other people's words helps me to understand myself more as well as them. Many times I'll read a post then leave it for quite some time - have to go off and think about it before I reply - just want to make sure that what I'm saying is helpful, not hurtful. I would hope that anyone I inadvertantly offend would let me know so that I can be more aware - sometimes I get lost in my head logic and can be rather clinical when I really should speak more from the heart. Hope I haven't said anything to trigger you - if so, please forgive.