[widgets]

when they say, "do u second guess yourself,"
can anyone give me an example, i think i do it, but i'm not sure.

[cluelessgluten]

Yes I do this. Very indecisive. Always afraid I'm making the wrong decision

[ECHOES]

2nd guessing can happen after making a decision because you aren't sure it was the right decision, or that you think you made the wrong decision. It can be about 2nd guessing your motives, your values, your beliefs, anything.

I might feel very confident one day at work, then feel like an utter failure the next because I doubt the things that made me feel confident, and I diminished them in my doubting, until they didn't exist anymore.

Mostly though I experience 2nd guessing about decisions.

[shezbut]

My experience of second-guessing occurs often.

Just yesterday a major event occurred. I was pulling into my apartment parking lot, off the road. I stopped in the driveway, as I saw a snowplow truck. He was starting to back up. I presumed that he was just going at the lot from a different angle. I stayed in the driveway and waited.

The snowplow kept backing up further and further. Just a couple of feet away from me, I finally put my car into reverse to back out in the road. Too late ~ he smashed into my car. The truck hit the side mirror and smashed the driver's side window.

I was blown away! Confused. Little pieces of glass all over me. The driver comes over and tells me that I had to stay away from him, because he's got such a large blind spot. From his perspective, the accident was my fault. But, I could swear that I didn't do anything wrong! At the same time, I kick myself for not backing out earlier, honking my horn, yelling....something! But I was stuck in this decision-making thing.

Freaking nightmare!

[Uprwestsdr]

Echoes ... you're right on target

[eskielover]

Second guessing myself......I was loading my truck up to make a long drive from my farm in KY back to my house in California. I was running a few days late in leaving.....packed up a few bags full of things, my broken computer......in one bag, I stuck my silver flute in the bottom of the bag which I was planning on practicing to play at our Christmas service when I returned to KY......it was the catch all bag that I stuffed everything I was going to go through when I got back to Calif. While putting all the bags into the back seat of my truck....my mind told me that I really should put my flute under the truck seat & not leave it in the bag I had stuffed it into......but I was running late & thought....nothing could possibly happen anyway.

Got the truck loaded & headed off down the highway in the afternoon....first night....no problem....next night.....ran out of gas on the highway driving into Albuquerque,....got into the hotel 6 late that night.....crashed in the room with my dog Leo.....went out to my truck the next morning to get an early start & my truck had been broken into....the only bad that had been stolen was the one with all my receipts & the one that had my flute in it.....turned out the guy who checked me into the hotel stole my debit card ID...& the bag was a coverup......the flute was so deep in the bag that it wasn't what they were after....but they got it anyway....if I had just put my flute under the seat like my mind had told me to do....it wouldn't have been stolen. That is one loss that has really crushed me as I will never be able to afford to replace it & the police refused to prosecute or even go after the guy who stole my ID. I hate it when I second guess what I know is the best thing to do.

That night mare has stuck with me for years now.....will stick with me the rest of my life I'm sure. I have been able to let go of the pain.....but the memory lingers on.

[bpd2]

eskielover, this is heartbreaking. I am so sorry.

[clouds_and_sun]

Yes I do this all the time.
My thoughts are always "should I say this? How should I say this? What will it sound like? What will people think of me? Will I sound normal? Will my statement cause people to outcast me again" I do this thinking a lot.