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#1
Jul 18, 2011, 09:55 AM
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Today I woke up with intense, inappropriate anger.
Here is a nice little link for others to deal with this mood: http://www.ehow.com/how_2154560_cope...-disorder.html It isn't bad advice. But what about the anger for the BPD person? I found this blog - for anyone who is interested: http://www.borderlineblog.com/bpd-ta...can-one-do.php But all the good advice and helpful resources don't seem to be enough. There has to be a more peaceful way to live life. |
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#2
Jul 21, 2011, 11:11 PM
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For me, therapy has helped a lot with this. It has helped me slow down my thinking so I can try to see where the anger and frustration originate. When I can get to there, then I can look at it better, understand it.
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#3
Jul 24, 2011, 05:38 AM
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I'm raging badly over everything and everyone currently. This is the only thread and forum that I have posted in because of that.
I'm so sick of everything. |
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#4
Jul 24, 2011, 12:51 PM
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I post those stupid posts about how therapy helps with mine, but I think my rage is not only outward rage but in other forms and today is a day I hate everything.
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| BrokenNBeautiful
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#5
Jul 24, 2011, 10:28 PM
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I just kicked a Tom cat for raping my kitten
If it comes back I'll kill it. Last edited by wanttoheal; Jul 29, 2011 at 08:28 AM. Reason: added trigger icon |
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Jul 25, 2011, 05:58 AM
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Also, if that effing dog over the back fence doesnt STFU very soon, I'm going to introduce it to my BPD self while holding a broom!
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#7
Jul 25, 2011, 06:15 AM
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Yikes, don't take it out on the animals...they're innocent triggers. I've been raging this whole past week too - maybe something's in the air?! Sometimes taking a walk or calling a friend helps. I also have a dedicated room for my tantrums - and I yell very loud!
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| BrokenNBeautiful, shezbut
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#8
Jul 27, 2011, 07:32 PM
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rage can be deadly, given the right set of circumstances, all coming together like a perfect storm, lucky for them
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Jul 27, 2011, 09:45 PM
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Jul 30, 2011, 04:01 PM
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What I am doing lately is validating my anger.
I have a huge reservoir of rage from my childhood and not to mention my young adulthood. I realize that I don't have to act on the rage. Back in February of this year, my roommate got upset with me because I was scaring his cats. I did not hurt them, but I kind of tear around the house and that frightens them. I started walking (when I am not sick, that is) at the beach and started writing and tape recording and venting. I make sure that I vent in a safe place. It isn't about suppressing anger, for me. It is about channeling it. And most of all, not being so afraid of it. I am not my rage. I have rage. ty for sharing this thread. Billi
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| Cnytroxy1973, ECHOES, shezbut
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Jul 30, 2011, 08:16 PM
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Can i assume you're in therapy and/or on medication? have you tried cognitive therapy? I took some cognitive behavioral dialectical whatever group class led by therapists, it has an acronym, maybe someone knows it, it's like bdt, or bct, something like that. very helpful. VERY.
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#12
Jul 30, 2011, 09:45 PM
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The rage I have for needing to be in therapy is very strong lately. Why do I have to learn how to change the way I am so as people will accept me?
Pisses me off. |
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#13
Jul 30, 2011, 10:15 PM
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I keep thinking about your post, and how self-accepting it is. I remember a time when it wasn't this way for you - you have really grown!!  I'm in awe  Thanks for your post. |
| shezbut
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#14
Jul 30, 2011, 10:44 PM
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I think that it may be very helpful for you to bring up these thoughts and emotions in therapy. Anger is a secondary emotion ~ have you discovered the initial emotion and what triggered it? Allowing yourself to think about the initial emotions and thoughts could help you a lot in getting past the rage that you're struggling with. Gentle hugs and kind thoughts sent your way ~ take care!
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Jul 31, 2011, 06:25 AM
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Sometimes the rage comes up so fast I don't have an opportunity to see it coming so I can rationalize it or stop it. There's no inbetween 0 and 10 . I think I've invented new curse words! Been thru behavioral cognitive intensive outpatient therapy twice (I flunked the first time) and it's helpful for some but not for me.
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#16
Jul 31, 2011, 07:23 AM
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When rage erupts, and you feel like cursing, yell about the rage: Why is this happening right now?! What happened right before to set this off?! What happened that made me feel "x" or "y"?! Who is this aimed at - me or another?! What happened that I didn't expect?!
Or, take a few moments right after to think about what happened, why that response was evoked in you. If you can keep practicing this, you will be able to slow down the rage response sometimes and understand what is happening. It is very freeing and feels powerful (where rage can be, ironically, a feeling of powerlessness). |
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#17
Jul 31, 2011, 01:12 PM
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I see I am not the only one that has rage. Sometimes my daughter will set me off. Just being her 6 y/o- button- pushing -self. I get so angry when she doesn't listen. I don't take it out on her. I self injure and scream.
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Aug 02, 2011, 08:29 AM
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It's definitely hard to have this and be raising a child. I couldn't connect with my son until he was about 7 and could have a normal conversation with me instead of crying and things. His crying would make me want to break everything in the house..it still does, but he doesn't cry much now.
The bad thing is, I see everything I do in him. He definitely has my anxiety/depression disorders, but at least I can relate and talk to him about it, UNLIKE my parents who are completely freakin' clueless! |
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