[palemoss]

it's been about a month since i dumped him because i felt like he didnt love me enoug. gosh i am nutcase with such misguided expectations. i feel awful that i may have hurt him and said rude things. i want to apologize (again). i am always apologizing for snapping at people. i have to stop. dammit. STOP GETTING SO ANGRY SO FAST.

ANYWAY, are you guys in the same boat alot too? this cycle of apologizing, making a mistake, getting angry..?

I do the same. I snap at people too. I say sorry most of the time too.

[beauflow]

Saying sorry is something i've done my whole life- no joke. I apologize for things i don't even do or cant control, or things that are nature with me and snapping at others too. For me- it's two things- my up bringing in general and things were my "fault" in ways and the other is that it is an extra way to try not to lose ppl. Saying sorry for what i may have done wrong or have done wrong. however it in the past with buds as i was little, it pushed ppl away cuz they don't understand. Now days as older some ppl get mad or upset with me cuz they don't want me to say sorry for things- especially for the things i shouldn't say sorry for.*also some times when i'm sorry ppl don't think i'm sorry which makes then mad and me feel as a failure* It's hard. Sorry that this is long but just saying how i relate. Geez go through some of my posts on here- there's sorrys too cuz i don't want to really offend anyone some times or i feel i need to say sorry no joke. Some sorry's have no reason. It's a long hard road for me with sorry :-|

[nicoleb2]

I also apologize, a lot. I apologize for everything, even when it's clearly not my fault. I apologize because I don't want people to be angry or hurt or sad or frustrated. Even if I was not the cause of those emotions, I apologize.

[Starchild3]

Originally Posted by nicoleb2

I also apologize, a lot. I apologize for everything, even when it's clearly not my fault. I apologize because I don't want people to be angry or hurt or sad or frustrated. Even if I was not the cause of those emotions, I apologize.

^^^^^This exactly!!!

[learningtolive]

Yup. As an example I know I had to be honest and express something to my husband....hurt him deeply, which in turn I felt horrible, and apologized.....and thats just one example...I can't stand that I'm always apologizing even if its not my fault.

[Flooded]

I'll apologise to avoid a confrontation even if it's not me at fault.

[beauflow]

Originally Posted by Flooded

I'll apologise to avoid a confrontation even if it's not me at fault.

Me too flooded- though there are times I get told I am condescending when I do that by some, which just makes things worse-

[Cnytroxy1973]

I am forever apologizing.....and just for the simplest things... my roommate may go and reach for something and even tho it is close enough for her to reach... I feel like I should of known that she wanted it..... I should of handed it to her.... Like I am apologizing for not reading her mind....

[beauflow]

Not being able to read others' minds it's impossible but i too still apologize for not being able to. :-| don't get it thou. Why is it that many say sorry? I can relate to everyone's post on here to nichole b. But I don't get it. It's a bit bothersome- logically self can disprove the blame or guilt or other like fear of losing, etc. but yet it stays. I don't get it and it's a conflict that does tearing apart.