Frustrated

I have been recently diagnosed with BPD. I am trying desperately to find the right mix of meds to take care of my symptoms while causing the least number of side effects. What we're all hoping for right? I struggle with angry outbursts, like short episodes of rage, that seem to come from some deep anxiety or fear. I have been experiencing depression, but it comes and goes throughout the day. It's not present all of the time, but when it hits, it can be debilitating. I also have anxiety mainly surrounding fear of abandonment in all of its forms. I'm raising a 13 year old as a single parent so I need to be on my game as far as mood stabilization goes. We've always had a fantastic relationship (my child and I), but she's starting to get old enough to realize I'm struggling with emotion regulation and it's really taking a toll on our relationship. I want/need to be regulated for her to provide the ebst role model I can for her future relationships. Does anyone have any recommendations for med combos that might help these symptoms? I'm starting to get scared that I won't find the right meds. My Dr started me on 500mg depakote, recently increased dose to 1000mg, with .5 mg Clonazepam as needed, 100 mg Trazodone at night as needed for sleep. has anyone tried Topomax, Lamictal, Wellbutrin, Abilify or any combination of those? Has anyone tried Depakote and if so, did it relieve symptoms? I'm open to any ideas. Thanks!!

Personally i found depakote helpful but to be honest quinlin, none of us here are qualified enough to be able to give you any proper insight into whats the best course of action for you. What works for one person might not work for another - we all have different body chemistry. Give your meds a while to work and if your still your not happy with your psych's treatment then get a second opinion. Sorry if my advice isn't helpful but this personally is what i would do. Good luck.

Meds are tricky. It can take years to get you to the place where you are feeling better and even then after awhile those meds stop working for you. And, when you first start taking meds, in can be a month to a month and a half till the full affect is noticed.
Of course, talk to your doc about your concerns and why you have them.

Abilify....I have involuntary muscle movements in my jaw and it's now permanent. I was on if for years though before it got so bad that a therapist noticed. It did help though.
Depakote...made a huge difference in my anger spurts but I gained 30lbs in the first month and my hair fell out horribly. Others I spoke to had the same reactions to it.
Lamictal...on now for almost 2 years. Had a little wait gain in the beginning and then settled down. Works great...for me.

bb2023 is right though, meds work differently for different people. As you here people explain their experiences with them, they are things to look for but not necessarily going to happen to you.

Do you have BPD?